What To Say On The First Date

Last time we focused on preparation. The concept was simple: plan what you are going talk about depending on the girl you are dating. Research and gather info about your date and calibrate accordingly.

Then, once you are together, remember the two golden rules of dating conversation:

• Let her speak. The more she does, the better she will feel.
• Don’t interview.   If she just answers questions, it’s a failure.

With that said, then focus your speaking on what will make success most likely: dreams and things you are passionate about. These two topics are very powerful when combined. They will make her bring all of her feelings, views and ideas out. She will definitely be more engaged talking about this than the usual career/jobs.

Speaking About Dreams

Few men lived even half of the things I did or have as crazy plans as I do. That gives me a big advantage when speaking about dreams. I can be very engaging and inspiring when speaking about future, life and wishes. I know it and take advantage of that. It makes sense: it’s what I can passionately speak about while really hooking up girls in an amazing conversation.

But you don’t have to be me to make use of this too. I speak for hours about things that I didn’t do yet and girls still love it. I can stay forever talking about my upcoming trip through the Silk Road in Central Asia and it still gives me a lot of success. You can do the same. Just make sure you have some kind of projection and ideas about your future.

If your only dream is to get a pay-rise and a bit more of free time to watch football you are not going to be an interesting man. Instead, talk about something you hope passionately for. Most girls, even if they don’t know (or care) what the Silk Road is are still really engaged when I speak about it.

Most will never care about governments in Tajikistan or the ethnic makeup of Kazakhstan, but will be quite thrilled by my ideas of crossing desserts in camels, stories about wife-kidnapping and experimenting with exotic cities and delicious meals. These little points can make a conversation last forever.

It is where the fun is. If you tell them to give you their opinion about crossing Central Asian deserts on a camel you will engage them much more than if you just ask about the mundane aspects of life.

And that’s just your side of the deal. What is her dream? It will be much more thrilling for her to speak about her stories, her hopes and wishes than about the boring things in life. It will give you material to speak forever while you get to know each other deeply.

Speaking About Passions

This works the same way if you speak about passions. What are you passionate about? There are must be countless of things. From culture to fun and sports, there must be something that will make you special. Make sure to speak about it.

When speaking about what you are passionate about you will be more thrilled, more excited and surely happier. You will transmit these emotions to the girls. Just make sure you don’t speak about what they will hate you to: football, politics, etc. Stay cool.

With a bit of preparation you can guess what she will most passionately speak about. Take the conversation that way and you are going to make her have a great impression of you. She will be more engaged and more active when speaking.

The Right Feeling

Did you ever meet someone who made you feel like an old-pal almost instantly? There are people who, even if you just met, always transmit that feeling. Be one of those guys. If you make girls feel that way you will rapidly achieve what most men can’t: confidence, trust and instant rapport.

Speaking about dreams and passions is your best bet to get that feeling. It is the fastest way to establish a deep connection with anyone you want to meet. Give it a try!

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