Touching a Girl – Things NOT to Do

The real language of love goes beyond mere words. The great lover is the one who, knowing this, approaches with all the senses. There are countless opportunities that will open for you if you know how to make the most out of touch.

Touching has to be natural; she has to feel it that way. Focus on suavity and on slowly but progressively escalating. Build chemistry between you and the girl. Make her feel accustomed and comfortable as the interaction progresses. Those are the keys – It’s that simple.

Nevertheless, there are thousands of men who do this all wrong. I want get you on the right track and teach you which are the most critical mistakes. Here they are:

1. You start touching too late.

You should start touching early. Start slow: play games, touch her hands, her shoulders, etc. But touch her! Don’t wait too long; make touching a habit. With a bit of practice you can make this look really real natural. It’s easy.

And, actually, touching early will make you more comfortable. If you skip the early steps you’ll make the last ones look more like a big deal. It will be weird, if not unnatural, to try to kiss her without having some kind of physical contact before.

2. You don’t escalate.

The touching has to advance as fast as the interaction. Don’t stay behind – Grab confidence and go forward. Touching is a like a game of push-and-pull. You’ll start, make a few steps forward, then one back and so on. But the line has to be clear: you will be progressively getting more intimate.

Make sure to read the subtle hints she will give you. Once you start playing with her, she may well play back. Act accordingly: she will be waiting for you to do so. Miss the chances and they may never come back: not grabbing them is a demonstration of low value.

3. You don’t know how to touch.

In this case, quality goes over quantity. Focus on making the most of every subtle touch. Make her feel more excited and more turned on by pressing the right keys. There are best places to touch and best ways of doing so. Here are few tips you can put into practice:

Focus on where the skin is most sensitive: the insides of the arms and legs, face and the front part of the body.
Play with different kinds of caressing: float, touch lightly, touch strong, etc. Use and mix them all. Don’t marry yourself with just one way of touching.
Learn to massage. It’s hard to find someone who doesn’t like massages. Make sure to know how to make her have the biggest pleasure out of any massage opportunity you have. (Article about this coming SOON!)

4. You rush.

Being too fast is as bad as being too slow. So make sure you press the brakes on the right moment. It’s important for you not to skip any step and to take one at a time. This way you’ll show confidence in yourself and you’ll also make her be waiting and excited for your next move.

5. You are creepy.

Seriously, avoid that slow and slippery hand that, almost by surprise and magic, always ends up touching her on the weirdest of ways. It’s an enormous turn off, surely the worst of these five. If you want to look like a weirdo, this is your best bet. It’s a point of no return.

Girls feel when someone is touching forcefully. Most of the times this is a matter of self confidence. If you are sure of yourself you might make even the most awkward caress look cool. Make sure that you have total belief in yourself and show it off in every movement you make.

Note: not all girls are equal. It doesn’t matter how good you feel you are: some girls will just feel uncomfortable around you. So don’t panic: it will usually be her fault. Avoid this by noticing any strange reaction and being fast to calibrate accordingly. No matter how different they will be, they are all, in the end, women.

Location Awareness

This article is written with a Western society in mind. In many places in Asia, just as we have discussed before, this may well be impossible to put into practice. What I suggest here is to make focus on energy.

You don’t necessarily need to touch a woman to make her feel more attracted to you. It’s just, I believe, a way to make things more simple. If you just can’t touch, focusing on giving away energy can be as aphrodisiac as touching itself. Focus on making an energetic connection with the girl you want and you’ll be closer to success. (I’ll write an article about this in the near future too)