Premature ejaculation occurs when you can’t control when you come. There’s no 5, 10 or 15 minutes rule, it’s all about control. If you can keep the coitus as long as you want, then it’s when you are a real master.
Of course it’s hard to keep going as much as you want, but it’s something everyone can achieve. It’s a matter of practice and a lot of effort. And the benefits are huge: you’ll get your partner happy, you’ll have more confidence and greater pleasure in bed. Controlling your ejaculation is a win-win proposition; from every side you see it.
Here are the best techniques to do so:
1- Calm Down.
And really, most of the problems come from over-anxious and nervous men, who are about to burst even before putting it. That won’t work. If you feel that ejaculation is just seconds away, back off. Start slower and build up.
Instead, get her excited with foreplay. Oral sex, kisses, games and caresses can do the job. Sometimes the girl will want to go straight in, so do it once or twice and then back off. But don’t let the girl control your times. You are the man, you control. So calm down, relax, breath and build up.
Don’t let sex overwhelm you. If you are just thinking about it, about the girl and about pleasure you’ll be keener to ejaculate faster. Instead fill your head with football and other thoughts, so as to make the excitement calm down.
2- Push and Pull.
This is the usual advice for all those suffering premature ejaculation. It’s so because it works! It means to pull out of the coitus once you are about to burst. Maybe you have been making love for one, five or ten minutes, but as soon as you feel that ejaculation is about to be inevitable, pull out. Don’t keep throttling.
Will it be disappointing for girls if you pull out? Absolutely. But it will be much worse if you ejaculate. Pull out with the aim of going back soon. Usually thirty to forty seconds will be enough, but depends on the person.
In the meantime keep going with foreplay. Play with her clit, your fingers, kisses, caresses, tickles, etc. This way you’ll minimize her loss of excitement. Speak sexy things to her, make her laugh… Make the transitions and each time you pull out look continuous, don’t break the magic.
Your goal has to make the push and pulls as less often as possible and the breaks as shorter as you can. Practice with that as your aim. Always go for progress: don’t stagnate!
3- The PC Muscle workout.
There’s this small muscle almost right below your balls. The more trained you got this little muscle, the better results you’ll have. Having it trained will make you be more in control of what’s going on: it will help with erections, cutting excitement and even controlling ejaculation as a whole. It really deserves some work.
Find this famous “PC Muscle” by trying to stop the flow of urine while you are urinating. You’ll feel it. Then squeeze it a few times to make sure you are right on. Once you found it, make sure to work it out every day: it’s just about squeezing it, hard or lightly and for shorter and longer periods. You can do it anywhere you are seated: buses, cars, at home, etc.
By having a worked-out and super powered PC Muscle you’ll have more control on your erections and on ejaculation itself. A hard and long squeeze from a trained muscle will delay ejaculation when it looks almost inevitable. It’s a powerful technique that’s best coupled with push and pull.
There are more marvels around the PC Muscle: all going from stronger erections to the myths of multi orgasmic men. I’ll write about that later this month so stayed tuned!
Final Thoughts
Words are not enough: sex it’s all about practice. The more sex you have, the better you’ll get at it. Controlling ejaculation is a part of this practice. It’s a big problem but it will be solved if you make a habit of practicing these three techniques. Be constant, don’t give up and you’ll see results.
However, don’t be expecting the change to come from one day to the other. Be careful, this is not magic. It takes a lot of effort to become a sexual master. But the benefits far outnumber the small exercises and the little time you have to invest every day.
Last, if you don’t have a partner practice by yourself. Take forty to sixty minutes every day and constantly learn these techniques. And, as always, think of this just as a guide. If you believe you got some serious, life-complicating problems, visit a doctor. They are there to help!
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Hi, i found this article very interesting and in fact is what i did with a beautiful model babe from Greece. She was tall, slim, beautiful face, soft skin, long legs etc. Basically i could have exploded within seconds but i know how to give a girl pleasure with my fingers inside her pussy so i pulled out before i lost control and i fingered her on her G spot so she was moaning with delight. I had calmed down by now (maybe 40 seconds like you said). Cock went back in and i went full speed until i was getting to the point of no return and just before… i pulled out. My penis calmed down and i massaged her back door and did this method with slight variations for about 30 minutes and then we decided it was time for the big bang!
I have a question though, i use durex and they really numb the penis and pussy so there is no feeling or pleasure. I want to feel everything but these condoms prevent that. I have taken the condom off before but this is far to risky and i don’t want to ever have to take it off again.
So, are there any super thin condoms that allow the user to feel all the nice sensations jsut as if he wasn’t wearing a condom? Or, what are the best condoms to use?
Thanks and excuse the long message.
Thanks
Richard M aka Trigger (Europe’s best Approaching and dating coach)
Hey Richard! Good that you shared your experience with us!
As for the condoms… Here in Argentina we have brands that are promoted as “super thin,” “max experience,” and so on. They are quite fine honestly. As you said it’s better not to take your condom off so look for a brand like that in Europe. I’m sure there’s one! When I lived there I found some okay ones, just can’t remember names!
Either way, using condoms sucks. Pisses off, cut the climax, etc… It’s a whole new world to do it without them. But well, just as you say it’s too risky and I would never have sex without it. Unless, that is, that I’m with a long-term girlfriend! Then it can be a possibility.
I hope to write this month an article about condoms, using condoms and experiences too! Stay tuned!
hello, thanks for the picks a bove. but to some extent , i face some thing moer than that. some times i get so much arosed that some times i fail to recall all about the controling .
Solomon make your biggest effort and try to recall! It’s ok if you fail to do it once… But most of the times you can do it :) Maybe the article makes it look easy, but it’s really quite hard.
One good way to practice is by yourself. Push until you are almost about to come and then pull… Do it for as long as you can (or wish to.) Do it enough times that you can control even in the most risky moments. Then follow the practice in bed!
But again, it’s hard! Don’t give up and keep on working!