Before everything – I have NEVER been to a Speed Dating session. It’s not big in Argentina, Brazil or in Austria. So I never had the possibility of giving it a try. But after dozens of emails asking me about it, I researched and wrote this short article to give you a hand.
I’ll appreciate if anyone with experience leaves a comment below. A real testimony will always add a lot of value.
So – What is Speed Dating?
As the name suggests, speed dating is an event where men and women meet in big numbers and for the purpose of finding a match in the shortest time possible. Once you join the meeting, you’ll have the chance to interact one-on-one with many different girls for a brief period of time, usually around three to eight minutes.
The events last for a while, ensuring that you’ll have the chance to speak and introduce yourself to many new girls. Once the round is over, you’ll move to the next girl, no matter how much you are enjoying the interaction. This is meant to offer all participants a wider choice and to increase their chances of finding someone.
At the end of the event every participant submits a list of who they would like to provide their contact information to. If there’s a match, the organization forwards this information to both parties.
In a speed dating event, no contacts are exchanged directly, to avoid face-to-face rejection. Arguing is prohibited and an atmosphere of fun and enjoyment is encouraged.
Sounds fun to me.
The People At Speed Dating
I don’t know how creepy people can be there – but if it’s like I see in the movies, looks there’s some fine people around. In fact, friends have told me that it’s mainly nice, attractive but busy people who and don’t have time for traditional dating. In short – people who want to meet a compatible someone without wasting time.
Some organizers also offer niche events, targeted at graduates, older men with younger women, ethnic and religious groups, art lovers, etc. I find this quite spectacular.
Is It Worth It?
I would definitely give it a try. Speed is the most obvious advantage. You’ll have the chance to meet a wide variety of girls and, best, all looking to find a mate. Unlike a club or bar, girls will be there strictly to see if they can meet someone.
Critics say you have too little time to speak, but I believe that with five minutes it’s enough to leave a lasting impression on someone. If you have a well-tuned pitch, it’s an opportunity you can’t lose.
Anyone has experiences with this one? Please share!
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Hey! I like the concept of Speed Dating. I think this concept will be beneficial for people like me with busy schedules and always traveling.
My experience with speed dating, I have been to three speed dating events, is that while it can be fun, it is more likely to be dissapointing. From my three speed dating events I met about 15 to 20 women at each one for a total of about 50 women. As described in the article above, you fill out a form at each event stating which women you want to date. So from the 50 or so women I picked about 15 women. From that I received 1 date and that 1 date never went beyond the 1 date.
What I have learned from my experience is that you have to be very focused with each woman if you want to make a determination of whether or not to date her. With only 2 to 5 minutes each, you don’t have the luxury of relaxing and just seeing where the conversation will go.
So, all in all, I don’t find speed dating a good way to get dates. It can be a little fun and a way to meet people but for the most part you will never see the people you meet there again.
Also, the companies that organize these speed dating events, generally segregate the events to different age groups, like over 40 for one group, under 40 for another group, so if you are interested in meeting women of all ages, you won’t be doing it at these speed dating events. I probably won’t go to speed dating again though I wouldn’t mind going to one if the age limitation was lifted. But I don’t believe that will happen anytime soon.
Thanks for sharing your experience Doug! I hope I can get to one of these soon enough – at least to experience it and write what I think about too. Until then, I really appreciate people like you who share their own!