This article is a continuation from our Online Dating Series.
Now it’s time to take the initiative. You might have the most perfect profile out there, but it’s of no use unless you take some action. It’s time for you to finally write this girl you like a message. Hot women can get up to hundreds of emails each day, so your goal and objective here has to differentiate from all those other average guys.
Following is a guideline for writing a message that will impress her and make her want to know more of you.
Be personal
You never want to copy & paste, no way. In order to grab the attention of the woman you want, you got to be personal. Add her as a friend before sending her a message. Read her profile, find interests in common and take a look at her photos. That will give you plenty of material to speak about.
Stand out with the subject line
“Hello”, “Hi” and “Hey” greetings, with all their possible variations, are the big protagonists in every woman’s inbox. Though it’s better than to leave the subject line empty, it won’t take you where you want to go. It’s easy to stand out here: just write her something personal. Make it cocky, funny. Slightly disqualify her or make her a funny question about the content in her profile. From the whole inbox you’ll be then the one she will read first.
Keep your message short
Never write more than two paragraphs, it’s a big turn off. It will be scary for her and it will show too much interest and dedication. You have to sound natural and spontaneous. Save your eagerness to speak and to tell her your story for later. Don’t think too much what to write. Your doubts will be expressed in each and every of your words.
Mind your grammar and spelling
By no means dare to have grammar or spelling mistakes in your message. Intelligence means higher value and you can hardly show it off if you don’t know how to write. And mind, you’ll always look stupid if you write things like “What r ur plans for 4day?” HORRIBLE! Some guys believe it’s cool but it’s the whole contrary. Write the words completely ok? And don’t use emoticons.
Write with confidence
Remember: your life is amazing and she is lucky you wrote her. Feel this way and make her feel it too. Never sound desperate, have a great man’s attitude. Don’t talk about dating or sex just now, go with ease. Show your value and don’t give her the upper hand: save compliments and nice comments for later. If she doesn’t treat you well, always be willing to walk away.
Met her before?
That would make everything much easier. Never ask her if she remembers you, be yourself the one telling her shortly where you met. Proceed with lines as “Never would have expected you to xxx..”, slightly disqualifying her but with a bit of fun on it.
Important
You’ll soon start meeting possibly hundreds of women. It will happen that you might specially like one, right? Even if I you are really attracted to her, don’t get too attached. Until you meet in person, be ready to let her go. You don’t want to waste your precious time with a woman who is not genuinely interested with you.
This is just about the first message, though the general guideline applies for what’s to follow. Stay tuned as we’ll cover each and every part of your online dating in the near future.
You'll Also Enjoy These Featured Articles:
How to Write a Great Online Dating Profile (6 Comments)
3 Practical Ways of Overcoming Shyness (10 Comments)
Site Update – July (0 Comments)
Online Dating Guide (5 Comments)
How to Overcome The Anxiety Of Approaching Girls (1 Comments)
{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }
Something Important I forgot to point out!
Don’t go and write on HER WALL! NO! We want a stream of conversation going on and she won’t like it if you flood her profile. Also, most men just go and do that. “Thanks for the add” and “Hi dear, how are you?” when both will only get your value down.
So, abstain from wall posting and go straight for the direct message.
I once was called Rick The Chick Magnet:) BUT
I was in an extremely bad car accident, coma, wheelchair, hospital and rehabs for over three years, but, now I am a ROCK STAR:) Not really but:)
But I used to have hotties around me always:)
NOW, I haven’t had a girlfriend, or sex, even, a kiss, for over a decade:(!
BRB, going out in the highway to dodge cars:)
But seriously, I will find the one and most quality women out there in due time. But gota learn to shut the hell up sometimes. I talk, as much as I type:)
Gota learn to be patient about sharing the personal info! And shutting the trap:
But in due time:)
Have you ever heard of the FREE dating site plentyoffish.com?
If so, what cha think bout it?
Ok, I should get some sleep, it being wow 5:07am,lol. I was in a coma for a month and half, guess I got a lot of awake time to catch up on:)
ZZZzz…:)
Rick
So sad to hear your story Rick! You look in a great mood though! When things get that bad don’t just think about your past and also think forward. Forget about the decade and start thinking about that nice girl you are going to get now! =) My 2 cents is not to talk about the accident to them – you don’t want them to raise pity in you, you want them to link nice emotions to you!
{ 2 trackbacks }