However sometimes you cannot make eye contact with her..this is okay. Just approach her anyway. Use an opening question, and ask if you mind if you join her.

It’s uncomfortable for a lot of people and that’s why it seems awkward for you to do. But the fact is that it gets a lot easier with practice and repetition. Keep on doing it, leave your ego at the table, and you’ll feel more comfortable. And always remember, do not get caught up or focus on negative thoughts about getting rejection. Good luck.

If there is an attractive girl who is at a table away from you, for instance, get comfortable approaching her directly. If you can make eye contact before approaching her, make a quick smile to ease the distance. However, if you can’t, it’s okay. Just approach her with an opening question and ask if you mind if you join her..

Approach from moment zero. As soon as you get to the coffee place, sit next to or near (talking distance) from the girl you would like to meet. That will make matters easier. Once she looks up to you (usually they do when you are sitting down) smile and say hello loud and clear. You can then immediately make a small comment (weather, time of the day, coffee, whatever!) and test how the girl reacts.

And don’t worry about awkwardness… As long as you appear with confidence, smile and talking naturally things will end up fine. Worst case is that she just doesn’t want to speak and you move on.

Just make sure, as always, not to stay chit-chatting that long. It will kill your chances!