Comments on: How To Know If A Girl Is Interested in You http://www.beautifulwomendating.com/how-girls-show-interest-in-men/ The Best Photos, Videos And Articles on Beautiful Women Sat, 04 Feb 2012 18:11:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: AAC http://www.beautifulwomendating.com/how-girls-show-interest-in-men/comment-page-1/#comment-9374 AAC Fri, 06 Jan 2012 23:58:07 +0000 http://www.beautifulwomendating.com/?p=677#comment-9374 Thanks Mario and Xris for your advice and support. I really appreciate it! I think you guys are right though I need to start reciprocating back some of the attention she's been giving me. I've actually made things worst for myself and now have made myself become so nervous around her. Today, I saw her and I waved at her. At first I thought maybe she didn't notice me because she didn't do anything. Then she came up behind me smiling and said "sorry Alex, hi, I thought I saw someone." However, once again I was so chicken and nervous and just said "oh, that's ok" and smiled at her. I just hope I got this right and she does seem interested. Thanks Mario and Xris for your advice and support. I really appreciate it! I think you guys are right though I need to start reciprocating back some of the attention she’s been giving me. I’ve actually made things worst for myself and now have made myself become so nervous around her. Today, I saw her and I waved at her. At first I thought maybe she didn’t notice me because she didn’t do anything. Then she came up behind me smiling and said “sorry Alex, hi, I thought I saw someone.” However, once again I was so chicken and nervous and just said “oh, that’s ok” and smiled at her. I just hope I got this right and she does seem interested.

]]> By: Xris http://www.beautifulwomendating.com/how-girls-show-interest-in-men/comment-page-1/#comment-9370 Xris Wed, 04 Jan 2012 17:10:46 +0000 http://www.beautifulwomendating.com/?p=677#comment-9370 @Mario: Totally understand your ethical position. Please elaborate on those expectations though. I feel I should clarify something here. I am not advocating nor do I enjoy breaking up peoples marriages. I feel for the guy. I really do, because although I haven't been married, I've had my heart broken many times too and it sucks. 9 months ago I was with my girlfriend and our son when she broke up with me and went to shack up with her ex and I believe that kids trump marriage any day! I was devastated. It was however, in retrospect, the best thing that could have happened. We were miserable. It was affecting our son negatively. We believed we should stay for him, as a lot of people would I imagine, however the fact was we were miserable and fighting a lot and we could not give 100% to our son because of it. Now that we've parted, I am happy and our son is happy too. Anyway, this is why I'm ok with Coffee Girl leaving her husband. She does not want an affair. It's cruel. She wants to leave as cleanly as possible, which is a good sign really. I mean if she jumped ship in a second, why wouldn't she do that to me later right? Marriage, in my opinion, is simply a contract on paper, witnesses by loved ones, that declares your mutual love and promise to honour and cherish each other forever. In her case, the contract has been broken, so all bets are off. He neglects her and clearly wants to be doing anything besides spending time with her. They didn't even get married for the reasons I mentioned above, only because of bizarre family pressure and nagging and they were young and naive. So should our insane passion and love for each other be more important than a disfunctional marriage on paper. I say Hell Yes! What is more important than love? @Mario: Totally understand your ethical position. Please elaborate on those expectations though. I feel I should clarify something here. I am not advocating nor do I enjoy breaking up peoples marriages. I feel for the guy. I really do, because although I haven’t been married, I’ve had my heart broken many times too and it sucks. 9 months ago I was with my girlfriend and our son when she broke up with me and went to shack up with her ex and I believe that kids trump marriage any day! I was devastated. It was however, in retrospect, the best thing that could have happened. We were miserable. It was affecting our son negatively. We believed we should stay for him, as a lot of people would I imagine, however the fact was we were miserable and fighting a lot and we could not give 100% to our son because of it. Now that we’ve parted, I am happy and our son is happy too. Anyway, this is why I’m ok with Coffee Girl leaving her husband. She does not want an affair. It’s cruel. She wants to leave as cleanly as possible, which is a good sign really. I mean if she jumped ship in a second, why wouldn’t she do that to me later right? Marriage, in my opinion, is simply a contract on paper, witnesses by loved ones, that declares your mutual love and promise to honour and cherish each other forever. In her case, the contract has been broken, so all bets are off. He neglects her and clearly wants to be doing anything besides spending time with her. They didn’t even get married for the reasons I mentioned above, only because of bizarre family pressure and nagging and they were young and naive. So should our insane passion and love for each other be more important than a disfunctional marriage on paper. I say Hell Yes!

What is more important than love?

]]> By: Mario http://www.beautifulwomendating.com/how-girls-show-interest-in-men/comment-page-1/#comment-9369 Mario Wed, 04 Jan 2012 15:21:18 +0000 http://www.beautifulwomendating.com/?p=677#comment-9369 It's okay Xris, your story gives extra value to our readers here. All I can say is thank you for sharing and good luck - for ethical reasons I don't want to encourage you more or give you more best wishes. I'm the kind of guy who thinks an affair can be normal - but from there to break up a marriage there's a bigger line. But in the end, if she's not happy this can be for the best. Just watch out yourself - if she's breaking from her commitment and going to you it can spell a big number of expectations that maybe (deep inside) you are not ready to take on. It’s okay Xris, your story gives extra value to our readers here. All I can say is thank you for sharing and good luck – for ethical reasons I don’t want to encourage you more or give you more best wishes.

I’m the kind of guy who thinks an affair can be normal – but from there to break up a marriage there’s a bigger line. But in the end, if she’s not happy this can be for the best. Just watch out yourself – if she’s breaking from her commitment and going to you it can spell a big number of expectations that maybe (deep inside) you are not ready to take on.

]]> By: Xris http://www.beautifulwomendating.com/how-girls-show-interest-in-men/comment-page-1/#comment-9365 Xris Mon, 02 Jan 2012 10:03:15 +0000 http://www.beautifulwomendating.com/?p=677#comment-9365 @Mario: You wanted feedback, and I need more advice so here it is! :) Things are going extremely well with Coffee Girl.. She blows my mind and the feeling is mutual. She is pretty explicit about that! Finally went on a date with her on Friday. Was amazing as I'd expected. Got to speak a lot and stare at each other! Ha! I love feeling like this. Anyway. So now the stumbling block is her marriage, or more specifically her guilt about leaving her husband. She doesn't want to hurt him, obviously. She hasn't been in too many relationships and she even married the guy for the wrong reasons, but she is mortified at having to say those four little words 'i want a divorce.'.. So much so, she actually considers staying with him. Anyway.. I am a fair guy. We talk about it and I try my best to remain impartial. I have told her she needs time to make the choice. I know the best thing I can do here is give her space and make her not feel forced into any decision by me. It's hard.. but it's paying off big time. The more I encourage her to not drop everything and rush into my arms, the more she wants to. Also, she is not sitting around feeling guilty doing nothing. She has spoken to friends and her parents who encourage her to be happy above all else which obviously works in my favour! She has spoken to her husband and told him she is unhappy, but not mentioned the divorce yet or me. And she is off in Poland to visit her folks with her husband and promises to talk to him further when she gets back, so.. things are looking good. Anyway, I obviously need to handle things carefully. I am feeling very confident that we will be together soon. It's been hard. Giving her 100% of my heart while knowing there is no guarantee I'll end up with her has been a challenge, but I'm there and quite proud of myself! So, what I am really needing now is any advice on tactics to get the best possible outcome on this. PS: Should I post this somewhere else Mario? It's a bit off topic now :) @Mario: You wanted feedback, and I need more advice so here it is! :)

Things are going extremely well with Coffee Girl.. She blows my mind and the feeling is mutual. She is pretty explicit about that! Finally went on a date with her on Friday. Was amazing as I’d expected. Got to speak a lot and stare at each other! Ha! I love feeling like this. Anyway. So now the stumbling block is her marriage, or more specifically her guilt about leaving her husband. She doesn’t want to hurt him, obviously. She hasn’t been in too many relationships and she even married the guy for the wrong reasons, but she is mortified at having to say those four little words ‘i want a divorce.’.. So much so, she actually considers staying with him. Anyway.. I am a fair guy. We talk about it and I try my best to remain impartial. I have told her she needs time to make the choice. I know the best thing I can do here is give her space and make her not feel forced into any decision by me. It’s hard.. but it’s paying off big time. The more I encourage her to not drop everything and rush into my arms, the more she wants to. Also, she is not sitting around feeling guilty doing nothing. She has spoken to friends and her parents who encourage her to be happy above all else which obviously works in my favour! She has spoken to her husband and told him she is unhappy, but not mentioned the divorce yet or me. And she is off in Poland to visit her folks with her husband and promises to talk to him further when she gets back, so.. things are looking good.

Anyway, I obviously need to handle things carefully. I am feeling very confident that we will be together soon. It’s been hard. Giving her 100% of my heart while knowing there is no guarantee I’ll end up with her has been a challenge, but I’m there and quite proud of myself! So, what I am really needing now is any advice on tactics to get the best possible outcome on this.

PS: Should I post this somewhere else Mario? It’s a bit off topic now :)

]]> By: Xris http://www.beautifulwomendating.com/how-girls-show-interest-in-men/comment-page-1/#comment-9364 Xris Mon, 02 Jan 2012 09:44:40 +0000 http://www.beautifulwomendating.com/?p=677#comment-9364 @AAC: I'm a rookie but I'm starting to see patterns here. My advice. Move on this now! You probably are frustrating her and you're not displaying confidence here which is a turn-off for woman. You have nothing to loose asking her to coffee. Also, you need to play this down in your mind a bit. Sounds like you're putting her on a major pedestal, which is something I also tend to do, but it's important to believe for the moment that if she says no it's not the end of the world. If you don't have massive confidence, a trick is to downplay her importance until you know you're getting somewhere. But make a forward step every day if you can, even if it's small.. Also, if the 1-on-1 coffee shop thing is too scary for you right now, try organise an after-work drinks sesh with you, your colleagues, her colleagues and her. She'd feel the most comfortable with lots of people (and multiple exits!) in that situation so you'd more likely get a yes, and it gives you a platform to spend more time talking to her without the distraction of work, in a relaxed atmosphere. As Mario says, make an excuse to be with her. Sometimes it can take some planning! Cunning! But she's worth it right? And so are you. @AAC: I’m a rookie but I’m starting to see patterns here. My advice. Move on this now! You probably are frustrating her and you’re not displaying confidence here which is a turn-off for woman. You have nothing to loose asking her to coffee. Also, you need to play this down in your mind a bit. Sounds like you’re putting her on a major pedestal, which is something I also tend to do, but it’s important to believe for the moment that if she says no it’s not the end of the world. If you don’t have massive confidence, a trick is to downplay her importance until you know you’re getting somewhere. But make a forward step every day if you can, even if it’s small.. Also, if the 1-on-1 coffee shop thing is too scary for you right now, try organise an after-work drinks sesh with you, your colleagues, her colleagues and her. She’d feel the most comfortable with lots of people (and multiple exits!) in that situation so you’d more likely get a yes, and it gives you a platform to spend more time talking to her without the distraction of work, in a relaxed atmosphere. As Mario says, make an excuse to be with her. Sometimes it can take some planning! Cunning! But she’s worth it right? And so are you.

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