A girl who is interested in you might show it through two possible ways. First, she will give you subtle hints that she is becoming increasingly attracted to you. She’ll smile at what you say, she’ll try to keep the conversation going and maybe she’ll even touch you. The second way is much harder to read – it’s about these little things she does unconsciously when she is becoming more and more attracted to you.
Following is a list of all those things women do that fall into those two criteria. I compiled it through my personal experiences and also coupled it with some great material I have found in the Internet.
A girl is interested in you when…
• She laughs while talking to you
• When comes back after going to the bathroom
• When sitting next to you her leg touches yours
• She asks if you have a girlfriend
• She avoids mentioning her boyfriend
• She reinitiates conversation when you stop talking
• She seats with her legs opened
• She giggles
• She introduces you to friends
• She buys you a drink
• She touches you
• She returns your calls
• She looks back and glances at you repeatedly every minute or so.
• She tosses her hair (to see if you will look)
• If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it
• When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reactions
• She smiles at you
• Her skin tone becomes red while being around you
• She stands nearby
• She laughs in unison with you
• She plays with her hair while talking to you
• She asks for your name
• She asks for your age
• She compliments you
• In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you
• She uses nicknames for you
• She asks you where are you going as you leave the bar
• She calls you a player or a heartbreaker
• She is playful and tries to challenge you
• She leans into you
• She degrades other women
• She starts qualifying herself
• She wets her lips
• She raises both eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds, this is often combined with a smile and some eye contact
• She is fixing, patting or smoothing her outfit to make herself look better
• She is throwing her hair back off her shoulders
• She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you
• She exposes the palms of her hand facing you
• She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated
• She plays with her jewellery, especially with stroking and pulling motions
• If she is wearing clothes that show her nipples underneath and you notice they are getting perky and erect
• She rubs her chin or touches her cheek.
• If seated, she starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm
• She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours
• She sits with one hand touching one of her breasts
And more! The list will keep being updated in the near future and you are all invited to contribute leaving your own in the comments section just below.
Personally I don’t follow these rules that much. I’m a bit more of a feelings guy and generally notice when a girl is into me or not. You probably will do too once you have a bit more of practice and experience with women. But experience or not, these points above keep true. If you know them all and are skilled when reading them, you will only have gains. It will give you a great hand!
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Haha, dude, too true.
I’ve had a person experience with “• When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reactions”. Turned out to be my current girlfriend at the moment!
Sitting on 9 months today. This is a good article. I would recommend it, as it DOES speak the truth.
I agree dude!
But I would add a couple of signs –
take a look here for an awesome post I found:
http://georgeulysses.com/2009/09/28/20-ways-to-tell-if-a-girl-is-interested/
She gives you a card. Thank you, Christmas etc. She is trying to get into your world or is thankful you are in her world.
Reading these tips on how to attract a beautiful women is helpful and I agree that it is important for a man to maintain his confidence. I have been in situations where a woman will be looking at me, and begins to smile, twirling and playing with her hair, waiting for me to make a move, but like a fool, I just sit and look. And to my suprise, the woman will approach me because she knows that I have been watching her with interest — a situation that many women will not do, but it all depends on how the woman feel about a men they like. Perhaps I appear different than most men around me. Which explains why some women will approach me with interest.
That’s cool Michael! It’s always cool when girls approach you – it raises self-esteem and makes you feel special (not all guys are approached, right?) I just suggest you to start trying more yourself… If you know that a girl is interested, give a shot. You have nothing to lose, and a lot to learn. Give it a try!
Thanks so much! The girl I’ve had my eye on has showed lots of these signs.
Very well written. Great list.
All very true.
What I love the most about this post is the message you end on.
“Personally I don’t follow these rules that much. I’m a bit more of a feelings guy and generally notice when a girl is into me or not. You probably will do too once you have a bit more of practice and experience with women.”
Right on, when you get more practice and experience you will likely start to feel this way. You will just know what is what without having to follow any rules but they do act as a very useful guideline before reaching this point.
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This article is very useful indeed :)
SALAAM TO ALL
I agree that it is important for a man to maintain his confidence. I have been in situations where a woman will be looking at me, and begins to smile, twirling and playing with her hair, waiting for me to make a move, But when i said to her thai i want to make friendship with you she reject me and said no what was that……… plz comnts
Probably the fact that you wanted to make friendship with her Ali, it’s way too abrupt to ask for it, usually they like to be taken to dinner first
Here’s an easy one. You know a women is interested in you when she hangs out with you and she’s not wearing any underwear! Even if she is playing hard to get or pretending that she’s not interested in you or having sex or your just friends. Its no coincidence that she is parading around you bare ass. Don’t let her fool you. Triangular gazing while you insinuate sex with her may help you close the deal. This worked really well for me recently despite the challenges I stated above!
Never pretend that you didn’t notice her anatomy just to be polite. Don’t be shy. Whether she is with or without panties, thongs whatever. I think its to good say hello to her womanhood through proper body language and indirect touching. As always hold strong eye contact as you speak slowly and softly to her then casually, slowly and audaciously drop your eyes down to the goodness between her legs as she is watching you. In this moment you can lick your lips to give her added stimuli but not like your about to annihilate a 10 oz ribeye steak and mashed potatoes.
No, don’t over do it. Do it once with some swag, with confidence like you know what you want and you know that she wants you. Don’t leave it to luck. After you do this, resume eye contact just the same way you broke it; Casually, slowly and without fear of what she may be thinking or what she might say about it. Give her a sly closed mouth smirk once eye contact is resume to let her know that you know she is anatomically correct and not wearing underwear.
Now set back, relax and watch her body language. When and if she reciprocates your body language, you know your getting laid! If she doesn’t reciprocate your body language right away, use the triangular gazing again a couple of more times while you speak to her. You have to draw it out of her because she doesn’t want to feel like a slut. She just innocently forgot to wear underwear that’s all. I hope that this post helps someone get laid. I pay it forward.
I did this with a 7 and she was ready to blow immediately after. She gave me theses indications when she was ready. “She raises both eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds, this is often combined with a smile and some eye contact” That’s how I know that this site legit!
Anyway I’m new at this. Sites like this one have helped me tremendously to increase my lay average. Thank you Dating Beautiful Women.com. You guys are definitely on point here! I’m always open to any suggestions to what make this tactic of mine better.
Later, I’m out!
Hey Mario,
Got a suggestion for another article for you, and my current problem. How To Pick Up Women While They’re Working (At a Coffee Shop?). I think a waitress at Star Bucks is interested in me. However, I’m not naive. I know that part of the way she engages me could be due to her job, ie. She’s friendly, but more friendly with me than other customers. She always asks how I am and tries to start up some form of communication. I’m always greeted with eye contact and a smile. The problem is in this environment which is always quite busy it’s difficult to detect the signals. The signal to noise ratio is an issue because of her job constraints. She barely has time to look at anything besides the endless stream of coffee craving zombies queueing to get their fix. Today I noticed when the place quieted down, I caught her looking at me once or twice. Previously she has leant over the counter into my personal space which caught me off guard once and I guess it must have shown because she almost looked hurt afterwards. Strangely even though I get the feeling there is definitely interest of some form from her side, we haven’t even exchanged names yet, like that would somehow take it out of the comfort zone. She’s told me some of her backstory. She’s polish and came to Germany to work as a teacher but her english isn’t up to scratch so she can’t get a job. etc. We both seem to be very comfortable chatting however its difficult as she can’t stay put in one place for long. Anyway, I can understand that women at work probably loathe getting hit on so I want to tread lightly here. Any advice?
PS: Forgot to say: Love the site. Love your frankness. Respect.
Hi Xris, great story, thanks! I wrote an article about picking up girls at the coffee shop, so make sure you check that one out as well =) But I didn’t think about the girl working at the coffee shop. As you say, those girls are used to getting hit on and, I guess, in the same way she’s being playful with you she might treat other customers as well. Just don’t do what all those other guys would – I mean, you could go and ask for her number, etc, but you can do better as well. Tell her you have someone you should introduce her to (a girl, someone that doesn’t take you out of the game)… Ask for her name for the next coffee and tell her she’s cool and friendly, etc, etc. I’m sure it can work all out!
Hey Mario,
Not quite following you re: introducing her to another girl. Could you expand on that? Are you suggesting i try getting her jealous and gauge her response?
Not really – the trick here is that usually most people say yes when presented with the possibility of meeting someone who they are likely to find nice and similar to them, especially if there’s no expected commitment or anything from their side (that’s where the girl makes the trick(. If it’s you three meeting, then the girl will find it nice – and it will be a good time to showcase that you are a nice guy, and maybe plan a second meet up already you two alone if all goes well.
I am married and my wife introduced me to one of her single co-workers. I have seen her several times with my wife. This girl seems to be interested in me. She said, loud enough for all to hear ,upon my arrival “there’s that big hunk of a man.” She also told my daughter that “guys like your dad do not grow on trees.” On one occasion, we were sitting around my kitchen table. When i glanced at her she was looking straight at me with a smile on her face. Am i dreaming? Could she just look up to me, knowing that i am off the market? This girl is stunningly beautiful. I am 46 and she is 33. Any constructive help is greatly appreciated.
Hi Rich – she could be very well interested in you or just playing around. Do you know how she acts around other guys? Because if she acts this way around you, then she could be up to something. But then again – just forget about it. If there’s one way you can really hurt your wife is cheating her with someone she introduced to you. But the moment is good for your ego =)
Hi Mario – My 23 year marriage is probably about over. My kids are nearly grown(19 & 17) and the wife and I are distant. I have been faithful and unhappy for years. I have no intention of cheating. It is nice to see that this old man is still alive after all these years. I kind of figured this new girl is probably jerking my chain. However, I do like to keep my options open for the future. You are right that it is good for the old sleeping ego. Thanks for the help.
@Rich: You should very conflicted. Does it matter? You’re off the market right? Of course, it sounds like you’re attracted to her too. What if she is interested? Dude, sounds like you have an unhappy marriage. But before you make any move, think about your wife and your daughter and the impact on them if you were to do anything. I would say try rekindle your attraction for your wife first. If you are truly unhappy, have the balls to end things with her first before having anything with 33. Your wife and daughter will respect you for that. Guys like you don’t grow on trees remember? :)
Mario & Xris -If it cannot be salvaged, I will definitely wrap things up first. After all, being a faithful husband for 23 years should count for something. Thanks for the help.
Ok so part 2 of my little tale. Same story as I wrote about above. The Starbucks waitress. So I have been in there a lot.. I’m so wired on coffee I don’t want just so I can see this girl, it’s rediculous. So the big problem is time to get to speak to her, and gauging her interest. She is not blatant in anything she does. No long stares, no classic body language signs.. But she remembered that I had hurt myself at gym and asked me how I was like 4 weeks later, she will make an effort every time to talk to me. On Friday, the place is packed. She actually brings my drink and food over seperately to my table. Each time she initiates a chat. I ask her if she wants to hang with me and my friends. She says Ok, without a thought. I ask her as I’m leaving if she is really keen, she says yes. I then went to dinner with a girl–friend of mine and on our way back we pass the Starbucks and there she is having a smoke break. So i introduce my mate to her and it’s great. She opens up coffee girl and I discover her name and tons of stuff and… she’s married. Ok, so now I’m thinking.. Jeez.. Am i imagining all this stuff? Is she unhappily married wanting out!? Dunno. Thoughts people. Don’t hold back!
Hi Xris – I’m sorry to disappoint you, but I’m pretty sure she is just being nice with you. And being nice doesn’t mean she’s unhappily married =)
This doesn’t rule out, however, that you can stil go for her or do something about it. But don’t get your expectations so high!
@Mario: Thanks for the advice Mario. However, I was right this time! She was trying to make a move! I for her facebook details a day later. Before I could add her she’d added me and started a conversation. We talked from 12am to 7am! Everything came out. She had liked me the whole time but the flirty signals are just not her style I guess, that and she’s at work. Anyway.. we are now madly in love.. Insane feelings of passion! The connection is amazing. Although, now the marriage is causing her great feelings of guilt. Even though it has been dead for years, her husband is a decent guy. We have not done anything physical, because she wants to get to know me before leaving the guy.. This is a catch-22 situation of course. She is totally into me and I her and even just talking and getting closer is a form of cheating isn’t it? But anyway. That’s her journey. She must choose. I could get hurt of course, but I am not afraid. She is worth it.
Crazy Xris, but I’m happy I was wrong! Hope it’s all for the better. Keep us updated on how it goes – getting involved with married girls is a bit tricky always (before, during and after), but keep going and see how it develops =)
So at work there’s this woman that’s kinda quiet. I never really paid her any attention at first and she works in a different department. But when I needed something she was always very helpful with me. I never really thought of any type of sign or notice to the fact that she may be interested me. But notice she was quiet around me. With her coworkers mostly other guys she wasn’t quiet with them. However, my coworker that works near her department told me she noticed she’s kinda quiet too. So with that I then gave up all suspicions that she was interested in me. Well so the months went by I would see her and we would say hi to each other as normal or sometimes look at each other and not say hi or not even notice each other even though I knew she was really there (mostly on my part). I even had a small (very small) conversation with her. I just made her aware that I was dropping something off and she was wondering what it was. It was just a normal thing, quick 15sec conversation. So about 3 weeks ago I drove up in my car and got out and at the same time she came out. I don’t know what came over me but I think it might of been my Friday at work and I got out and saw her and said “Hi! How ARE YOU!?” and I smiled too! I said it in a way as if I was really interested in wonder how she was. She then told me she was fine an smiled and it was a glowing smile from her and walked off. Ever since that day happened we always say hi to each other when we see each other all the time. She always says hi to me so cheerfully and most of the time she’s the first one to say hi and she always smiles now every time she says hi or sees me and she fixes her hair while doing it. I now sense this feeling too that she’s into me. I mean I can feel something happening. I do like her a lot! Is she showing some signs of attraction or interests to me? Or is she just being normal and nice? Thanks and sorry for the long post.
I also forgot to add that when she says hi sometimes she also turn her head or shakes it to fix her hair whenever she says hi to me.
AAC, if the girl says hi and smiles, at least she finds you friendly – but from there for her to actually like you can be a big leap. It’s hard to say with such a small gesture, especially since you work close to each other and it’s kind-of a formality to be in terms and friendliness with colleagues. But if you like her take a bigger step – try to start longer conversations, invent an excuse to go for a coffee with her, and after a good talk you’ll most likely know what goes on. Good luck!
Thanks Mario! Actually though we really don’t work close to each other. She’s in a different building. But you’re probably right and she’s just being friendly. Im thinking when she first saw me she was probably nervous when I was around and she didn’t want to show that she was interested. That’s why she didn’t say much at first. When I was around her I was getting that vibe that why is she nervous around me only. She talks with other people easily. But with me she wouldn’t say much but if I needed something she would go out of her way to help me. Up until I made the first move by saying hi and asking her how she was is when now Im getting some attention from her. I mean she’ll say hi to me and then literally 5min later she’ll see me again and say hi again and smile and fix her hair. She always gives me a smile. It’s actually me that makes myself not approachable. The reason is because I’M NERVOUS AROUND HER. You’re right though I need to go further with it and talk more. I just don’t want to mess things up, Im starting to fall.
Don’t think about messing up – just go! Do it slowly, as well – in the end, if you always say ‘hi’ it’s great and invites to more conversation. Just ask her how is her day going, make comments about the weather, some news… That’s if you want to take it slow. You don’t lose anything anyway =)
Thanks Mario! Great Advice! I notice today though that she was off a little and didn’t say much. She didn’t even say hi. Either she was busy with work or I’m blowing it and going too slow. Or I think she’s probably tired of always being the first one to say hi. That’s my fault. I notice her but I’m never the first one to say hi. Except for that one time and that was when she was so happy. Shoot! now I feel bad. I gotta start soon!
@AAC: I’m a rookie but I’m starting to see patterns here. My advice. Move on this now! You probably are frustrating her and you’re not displaying confidence here which is a turn-off for woman. You have nothing to loose asking her to coffee. Also, you need to play this down in your mind a bit. Sounds like you’re putting her on a major pedestal, which is something I also tend to do, but it’s important to believe for the moment that if she says no it’s not the end of the world. If you don’t have massive confidence, a trick is to downplay her importance until you know you’re getting somewhere. But make a forward step every day if you can, even if it’s small.. Also, if the 1-on-1 coffee shop thing is too scary for you right now, try organise an after-work drinks sesh with you, your colleagues, her colleagues and her. She’d feel the most comfortable with lots of people (and multiple exits!) in that situation so you’d more likely get a yes, and it gives you a platform to spend more time talking to her without the distraction of work, in a relaxed atmosphere. As Mario says, make an excuse to be with her. Sometimes it can take some planning! Cunning! But she’s worth it right? And so are you.
@Mario: You wanted feedback, and I need more advice so here it is! :)
Things are going extremely well with Coffee Girl.. She blows my mind and the feeling is mutual. She is pretty explicit about that! Finally went on a date with her on Friday. Was amazing as I’d expected. Got to speak a lot and stare at each other! Ha! I love feeling like this. Anyway. So now the stumbling block is her marriage, or more specifically her guilt about leaving her husband. She doesn’t want to hurt him, obviously. She hasn’t been in too many relationships and she even married the guy for the wrong reasons, but she is mortified at having to say those four little words ‘i want a divorce.’.. So much so, she actually considers staying with him. Anyway.. I am a fair guy. We talk about it and I try my best to remain impartial. I have told her she needs time to make the choice. I know the best thing I can do here is give her space and make her not feel forced into any decision by me. It’s hard.. but it’s paying off big time. The more I encourage her to not drop everything and rush into my arms, the more she wants to. Also, she is not sitting around feeling guilty doing nothing. She has spoken to friends and her parents who encourage her to be happy above all else which obviously works in my favour! She has spoken to her husband and told him she is unhappy, but not mentioned the divorce yet or me. And she is off in Poland to visit her folks with her husband and promises to talk to him further when she gets back, so.. things are looking good.
Anyway, I obviously need to handle things carefully. I am feeling very confident that we will be together soon. It’s been hard. Giving her 100% of my heart while knowing there is no guarantee I’ll end up with her has been a challenge, but I’m there and quite proud of myself! So, what I am really needing now is any advice on tactics to get the best possible outcome on this.
PS: Should I post this somewhere else Mario? It’s a bit off topic now :)
It’s okay Xris, your story gives extra value to our readers here. All I can say is thank you for sharing and good luck – for ethical reasons I don’t want to encourage you more or give you more best wishes.
I’m the kind of guy who thinks an affair can be normal – but from there to break up a marriage there’s a bigger line. But in the end, if she’s not happy this can be for the best. Just watch out yourself – if she’s breaking from her commitment and going to you it can spell a big number of expectations that maybe (deep inside) you are not ready to take on.
@Mario: Totally understand your ethical position. Please elaborate on those expectations though. I feel I should clarify something here. I am not advocating nor do I enjoy breaking up peoples marriages. I feel for the guy. I really do, because although I haven’t been married, I’ve had my heart broken many times too and it sucks. 9 months ago I was with my girlfriend and our son when she broke up with me and went to shack up with her ex and I believe that kids trump marriage any day! I was devastated. It was however, in retrospect, the best thing that could have happened. We were miserable. It was affecting our son negatively. We believed we should stay for him, as a lot of people would I imagine, however the fact was we were miserable and fighting a lot and we could not give 100% to our son because of it. Now that we’ve parted, I am happy and our son is happy too. Anyway, this is why I’m ok with Coffee Girl leaving her husband. She does not want an affair. It’s cruel. She wants to leave as cleanly as possible, which is a good sign really. I mean if she jumped ship in a second, why wouldn’t she do that to me later right? Marriage, in my opinion, is simply a contract on paper, witnesses by loved ones, that declares your mutual love and promise to honour and cherish each other forever. In her case, the contract has been broken, so all bets are off. He neglects her and clearly wants to be doing anything besides spending time with her. They didn’t even get married for the reasons I mentioned above, only because of bizarre family pressure and nagging and they were young and naive. So should our insane passion and love for each other be more important than a disfunctional marriage on paper. I say Hell Yes!
What is more important than love?
Thanks Mario and Xris for your advice and support. I really appreciate it! I think you guys are right though I need to start reciprocating back some of the attention she’s been giving me. I’ve actually made things worst for myself and now have made myself become so nervous around her. Today, I saw her and I waved at her. At first I thought maybe she didn’t notice me because she didn’t do anything. Then she came up behind me smiling and said “sorry Alex, hi, I thought I saw someone.” However, once again I was so chicken and nervous and just said “oh, that’s ok” and smiled at her. I just hope I got this right and she does seem interested.
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