Why you have to give women good oral sex
Many men underestimate the importance and benefits of giving good oral sex. Good foreplay, we can all agree, can potentiate sexual relationships and make the whole ritual even much more enjoyable. Cunnilingus is a must have skill for all men, as it’s easy to do and the benefits are huge. Also, it’s a great way to differentiate from all those other men who don’t do it – Men who don’t realize the big pleasure it will bring to both you and your couple.
Mind, good foreplay cannot hide the fact that the actual penetration is the most important part of sex. It’s not really just a matter of pleasure – as that depends on the woman – but instead it’s a matter of manhood. Women want to be penetrated and to feel the most rustic and animal part of sex. No matter how good you are with your tongue, you got to make the other part right!
But still, great oral sex gives you enormous advantages. First, you surrender your desires just to give pleasure to the woman. If you know to press the right buttons, that pleasure can be gigantic – maybe the best orgasms she will ever have. As I said, many women have stronger stimulation in the clitoris than with penetration itself – Make sure to give them both!
How is the best way to do all this?
First, remember that for good sex you have to be spontaneous and adventurous. The actual act of sex might always end up in the same – But you got to make the way towards it different, imaginative and absolutely unique. You could be slow or you could be fast, but make sure to make it something special.
A good approach, for example, is the following. Start by kissing her gently in the cheeks, behind the ears, in her neck and then continuing slowly down to her nipples, to her stomach to end up with one gentle and swift kiss in her clitoris and lavia. Then, continue your way down and keep kissing, now focusing on her thighs, legs, fingers and so on. Build up to the moment when you actually deliver the oral sex. Go back to her hot spot and for a few seconds and kiss her there again.
But don’t stay there just yet. Continue the kisses all around, make her slowly get more and more aroused. Do this by keeping the kisses going all over her body as well as using your hands to gently touch her. Touch her skin, her hair, her lips and also her clitoris when your head is somewhere else. Do this for some time and she’ll get really excited. To sum of to this excitement you should also touch her with your penis, almost as if it were involuntary, but you got to make her feel and see it. It will make her even more aroused.
Once she is really aroused, you can proceed to deliver persistent cunnilingus. Make sure to find the clitoris and use your tongue with ease. Invent – be gentle, calibrate the speed and don’t do always the same movements. Go up, go down, make swirls and make sure to also kiss instead of only licking too. Do it and make her feel a star, speak to her and always use your hands to touch her and keep growing that excitement.
After a decent amount of time licking, kissing and touching her clitoris and lavia you can also penetrate with one or two of your fingers. Gently, slowly first and only if your fingernails are well-cut and clean, so as not to give her any pain – you have to give her pleasure and only pleasure. Build up to the moment when you actually penetrate with your penis.
Make sure to get a good timing. Do this for a considerable amount of time – ideally you could have her having one orgasm from it before penetration or at least have her very close it. But don’t overdo it either – Make sure that it’s not too little or nor too much. Remember to use your hands at every moment. If you want to stop licking and would like to kiss her in the lips on somewhere else instead, keep stimulating her with your fingers, so as not to lose the arousal. If you have your head down, use your hands to stimulate other erogenous zones as could be her nipples or neck, for example.
Always talk to her and ask her what is what she likes the most. Ask her how she likes it and what she doesn’t like. Make sure to follow her desires so as to make her the most pleased, satisfied and ultimately happy with you. If you think she is dirty or that there’s one problem with her that might make you not do this, let her know. You could get her pissed and angry for a couple of minutes, but it’s all worth it for her and you if you two can achieve a more successful sexual life.
Important: there’s a small, yet real chance that giving or receiving oral sex could transmit you sexual diseases as HIV. Because of this I strongly recommend you to be careful choosing with which women you would do this. For more information about this, you could check the articles on Wikipedia here.
Finally, sex, in the end, is a skill. The best way to get better at it, as in with any other thing you do, is practice. Once you have your woman try to see what works better, what doesn’t do well and try developing your own techniques. But always remember that the objective here is to make her have pleasure she will never forget.
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you have very interested articles,thank you for your efforts.pls publish more educational articles like this one.you have a nice week-end.
Thanks your for kind reply Said! I’ll be publishing articles like this one in the future. I try to cover all the areas I can! If you found the article or the site useful, please spread the word!
sorry to say but being a lesbian I think to much is actually towards penile penetration. Try to use you hands. an orgasm can be readilly reached if you learn to use your hands and mouth but do understand for you blokes that the dick has to come into it soon. Just take youe ttime. I have found anotherway to bring a woman to many multiple orgasms is to just keep you mouth on her but try to hold your tounge still as you can. Give this a little while to warm up but pretty much a winner. Just add different preasure, she will respond and just hold her in your mouth while she gets worked up to a most amazing orgasm
To mumble, I agree. I find guys don’t spend enough time, and they think it gets boring. Being still for a time, just running your hands over her body, whilst keeping your mouth there, is an extreme turn on. I actually prefer giving, rather than receiving in the bedroom. By no means am I saying that I dislike it, I just love giving pleasure to the woman I love.
I have always found the sex to be A LOT better, if the woman has reached a climax before you have had any proper penetration, and also, for some, will be more open to things, as you seem, even if you are not, focusing on giving HER pleasure, not yourself.
i found this article really useful, but still i dont have the courage to do it. and plus, im underage
@James
Amen! Well said man! I also prefer giving rather than receiving. I want my girls to feel the greatest pleasure possible. That makes me feel great!
@Jak
Of course you might need a bit of courage at the beginning! But it’s ok, just let yourself go. You will find it very easy and very pleasing to do once you do it a couple of times! Also, obviously, the nicer the girl the more excited you’ll be when doing it. There are few girls that are a complete no-no for this ;)!