There’s no science behind the ‘kissing moment’ – it’s, usually, pretty straight forward. A girl ready to be kissed will, most importantly:

• Let you touch her without resistance (and touches you in return)
• Wet her lips slightly (or looks at your lips)
• Talk more sexually (or will be much more open to talk about sex)

A longer list – covering when is a girl interested can be found here.

But then, in some cases the situation is not clear – you know there’s attraction, there’s something going on but you are not sure if she’s ready, in the mood or if things have been going that well as to shoot for the kiss.

The dumbest thing to do here is to leave without actually finding out. You should aim for a kiss close in most situations – especially if you are alone and away from others (friends, relatives, acquaintances, etc).

Below are a few options of how to approach the kiss moment:

The Request Kiss Close

Avoid asking “Can I kiss you?” – you’ll put her too much on the pedestal, and you’ll make it easy for her to reject you.

Instead, ask “Would you like to kiss me?”- she won’t say ‘yes’, but, in this case, any answer that’s not an outright ‘no’ is good.

She could say she doesn’t know, and all that stuff girls say – but then it’s when you say, “Let’s find out” and go and kiss her. The ‘don’t know’ part comes usually if she’s a bit nervous about the implications, about the environment you are, etc.

If she does say ‘NO!’, make fun of her, tell her she’s ruining the moment, if she’s always that hard, etc. Don’t take it personally and be playful!

The Foreign Girls Challenge Kiss Close

This one is one I have abused a bit during my travels and now that I live abroad. When you think you are already at a high level of rapport, touchy, etc, ask the girl if she prefers foreigners or locals – and tell her you prefer foreigners.

When she asks “why?” – tell her that local girls don’t know how to kiss properly. Argument a bit, and then just say ‘let’s find out’ and kiss her passionately.

The 10-Scale Challenge Kiss Close

This one is also pretty good. Ask a girl to rate herself, on a scale of 1 to 10, on how good kisser she think she is. Be playful, but at the same time challenge her – you want to inspire a few emotions.

Then just kiss her – and then, after only a bit of kissing, say “that was terrible! Let’s do it again to see what you’ve really got!”

The Hug Kiss Close

This one is playful – good especially if the girl has friends in common with you, etc. Just tell her, when you are at the end of the date, “well, give me a good hug – it’s too song for a first kiss.”

Give her a good hug, and then, without letting her go too much, tell her “well, now that we have passed the hugging stage, we can finally kiss.” Kiss her before she says anything!

Ending Note

One last fact here: if a girl doesn’t want to kiss you, she WON’T KISS YOU. It doesn’t matter how many closes you know, how good you are at them, etc.

The closes will only work if there’s enough attraction – they’ll make it easier because she’ll have less time to think, it will be funny, etc. Plus, they are an excuse for hell as well – she can then say ‘you kissed me’ and not ‘we kissed’, and will help herself feel a bit ‘harder’ than she was (girls don’t like to be ‘easy’!)

I’ll share a few more closes next week – in the meantime, read this guide on how to improve your kissing.

When and How to Kiss Your Date is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women

Most people say, ‘wait for 2, 3 days, and then, yes, call – but never do it right away!’

Is that the right approach? Maybe – it depends on the girl and on the situation. Here I will give you a few tips on how to deal with it.

I’ll give you a few examples so you can understand what I’m talking about:

1- You barely know her, and you got her phone number fairly quickly – you met her in the subway, in the street, etc

In this case, the girl is a cold contact. She might or might not remember you after a couple of days – so a call between 48 to 72 hours after you met could be the right approach.

In this case, an immediate call could be too desperate – and what you want to show her is that you are a decent, respectable guy. It’s the type of girl you should organize for a coffee, a quick drink or another ‘light’ date.

2) You met her at a party or social occasion and had some time to establish trust and rapport

Normally, you would want to call her 3-4 days after – no more, no less. You want the girl to think where are you, why aren’t you calling, etc.

The thing here is that this is becoming a fashion – almost nobody calls the day after now. If you have the confidence and you thought she’s really into you, call her the day after!

But in that case, give a few buffer days for the date – if you call a Friday, arrange a date for Sunday.

3) You know her from a common friend or common setting (work, friends, school, some other class) and you are likely to see her again

Here’s a bit like #2 – but she’s a bigger prospect. If you are going to meet her in the next few days, don’t call – tease her, make her want you.

Otherwise, call 3-4 days after, or immediately if you have the confidence. Just remember to set up your date not for very soon.

For the call itself and what to say, I suggest you to read how to speak with girls on the phone.

Voicemail Messages?

If you leave her a message, you transfer all your power to her – she can take as long as she wants to get back to you (if so). You’ll be, in the meantime, wondering and thinking about her.

So just don’t leave her a message – call back. Call back one more time a few hours after – maybe at early evening, when she’s most likely free from work, school, classes, etc.

Don’t call more than twice – otherwise you’ll look way too desperate.

When Do You Call a Woman? is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women

Once a while I want to share a story with you.

This (craziest) adventure happened just a bit more than a month ago. It was a cold, rainy Saturday morning in Copenhagen – pretty much the norm in this side of the globe, and I was chilling in bed with my girlfriend.

Nothing too special – we were just chatting, watching some series and resting a bit after a long and hard-worked week. After a while, with midday soon approaching and no plans for the day, we started brainstorming about what we could do…

Cinema? It had been a while since the last time…

Eating brunch out? Maybe…

The rain and cold also crossed out most outside activities from the list – it was just not the best day to walk through the parks, go biking or do any outdoor thing.

And then my genius (!) struck – “Do you want to PARIS?”

Tour Eiffel, Champs-Élysées, Notre Dame… There’s certainly a lot to see in Paris, and, as I told her, “the weather there must be much better as well”.

She first thought I was joking (who wouldn’t?), but I was pretty serious about it. Soon I was scheduling the flights, checking prices, etc.

By the look in her face she looked quite uncomfortable. In a way, happy – but in the other, stupefied that she could very soon be on a plane.

Though she had been as far as India and to dozens of countries in Europe, she had famously skipped Paris from her adventures. Saving it? Coincidence? A bit of all, she said – so the first visit would always be special.

In any case, we both needed to be back the next day already, as we had important commitments the next Monday morning. So, between this and that, the deal was going to be for just one day in Paris – couple of hours less, couple of hours more.

The magic moment was when after filling out my details, selecting all the flights, etc I parked the cursor just over the ‘buy’ button. It was quite a bit of money (last-minute deals my ass, and I paid). It was 9.30 and the flight was leaving at 11.45 – very, very soon.

So I asked her again – “do you want to go to Paris?”

After a big smile and a nervous ‘yes’ I pressed the button and bought the flights. I quickly got my ID, packaged very few things on my bag and we set out for the airport.

She didn’t have time to go to her place and change or look for anything. She just took her bag and we went straight to the airport.

Here’s also where Europe is wonderful. When traveling between most EU countries (both Denmark and France are EU) you don’t need your passports – just the ID card. And, no matter how expensive the last-minute deal was, Paris is just two hours away from Copenhagen by plane.

The whole way to the airport, while at the airport and while flying, all she told me was that I was “very crazy” and that she as very much out of her comfort zone. She’s quite Nordic, and people here are not this spontaneous at all – most things are planned in advance and trips are not the exception.

But then we got to Paris. I was also in a bit of ecstasy – it was my fifth time in the city, but none of the previous was this random and this special.

I knew a good, well-located and well-priced hotel from my past visits, so we first went there, left our bags, grabbed a quick take-away food and then we set off to roam around Paris.

It took her a bit of time – but after walking a few blocks next to the Seine River she told me “I’m very happy Mario” for the first time in the day. She really was – I could see it on her eyes. They were two deep blue lights shining.

She would tell me she was very happy a hundred more times as we went down to the Louvre, cruised the Champ de Mars and climbed to the very top of the Eiffel Tower.

Every bit of the day was filled with magic – I couldn’t have asked for something better. It was kind-of a dream – Paris, a girl I loved, spontaneous… For much it was for her, it was a lot in for me as well. I was enjoying every second.

At one point, we bought a bottle of wine, sat next to magnificent Hotel des Invalides (where the one and only Napoleon rests), and drank a few glasses for love.

It was the right time to cheer for our good relationship, for how lucky we were to have each other, for the good times to come and much more.

And that’s a good time and place to talk about the future. When she’s so happy and full of love it’s the right moment to step up, add some points to the agenda and have her sink them in.

“We are in Paris now – but I’ll take you to Asia, to the Americas and beyond” – “I’m happy you are happy, and I’m looking forward to make you even more happy in the future”.

Guys, once you do such an investment, the smart thing to do is to profit from it. And profit doesn’t mean wild sex or the fulfillment of some other fetish.

Profit it’s all about getting your girl VERY, and I mean VERY (!) much in love in you. When there’s that much love on the table then it all comes easy.

By the time we finished the wine it was already past midnight, and, tired and worn out from sightseeing and lots of walking, we headed to our place for the night.

We work up relatively early, quickly packed, checked out, ate some fine French pastry and went for some more sightseeing. That’s what made the most sense to both – “let’s enjoy PARIS (vs. the hotel, guys!) and profit every minute we have here”

So flew away the last couple of hours in France – more strong hand-holding, hugging and kissing in the streets of one of the world’s most beautiful cities.

It was a blast, and by the time we were boarding our return flight I knew I had done the right thing. It was crazy, expensive and way too random – but it was GREAT.

I’m sure that no matter how much time goes by and how many guys come in her life, this girl will never forget me and this experience. It’s the adventure, the spontaneity, and, most importantly, the feeling that I (and ONLY I) can get her emotions that high up that nobody can match.

Now I keep telling her she’s ‘cursed’ – these are the type of things that make me and can make you as well unforgettable. They just put you in another league.

I laugh when other guys approach her on a bar or a club – after things like this they don’t stand a chance. I just walk past by her and whisper into her ear: “I’m feeling like eating a Fondue again – we might need to go to Paris right now.”

I love teasing her, but she knows that there’s a bit of truth into it as well.

So I can call myself a pretty cool guy – but then, there’s one other person who deserves the credit for this story.

My best friend in Copenhagen is this Mexican guy – a cool, handsome and very smart folk who left his top-tier job in Mexico and flew for his Masters in Copenhagen because, he put: “Mario, I was desperate – all of my friends, from school, work, university and more were not only getting married but also having children!”

So he flew away, crossed the Atlantic and came to this paradise full of very, very hot girls we call now our home. But, before, five or so years ago…

He was at the beach in Mexico – and by this bar, next to the fine, blue waters of the Pacific he met a girl. She was, in his words, “very smart and very pretty.” And even if he had never read this site before, he knew that the best thing you can ask a girl is: “what are your dreams?”

Apparently the top dream this girl had was to go to Paris.

Guess what my friend did?

Even if they hadn’t even have a single kiss before, he bough two return tickets to France, reserved three (!) nights in the Four Seasons hotel and took the girl to the city of her dreams.

He’s absolutely insane, but a GOOD insane. Those are the anecdotes you never forget as a man. I can break up with my girl (as he did with his), but those stories are and will remain unforgettable for both.

And hey – neither of us is rich at all. We are two normal guys with a standard wage and earnings that wouldn’t go and impress anyone around.

My friend and I are very irresponsible guys – by no means I suggest you to spend hundreds of dollars on a day as my friend (in his case, thousands!) and I did.

But I hope it serves you as an inspiration.

You can invent your own Paris – you can also do magic. What this magic is doesn’t really matter – it’s all about the spontaneity, it’s about making something that no other man would ever do. If you liked this story, you might also enjoy my 5.00 AM date story as well.

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My Unique and Spontaneous 1-Day in Paris Date is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women

Last month I joined the International CBS Choir in Copenhagen. I never imagined myself singing, and even less now that I’m especially busy.

But hey – there’s a catch, a catch that dragged me in and will drag any other courageous guy as well.  In the choir I sing, there are around 60 girls (!), and, counting me, there are ONLY SEVEN GUYS.

This is not a Danish phenomenon – apparently choirs round the world are filled with young, beautiful and lovely ladies and only a handful of guys.

Only ballet and some random dancing lessons have such a magical ratio.

Best, unlike at the club, bar or even at cafes, the girls at the choir are all nice, friendly and very open.

A choir is a single guy’s paradise, and I strongly suggest you to make some time to join one.

You Can Also Join a Choir

My family, friends and even my girlfriend labeled me as a ‘horrible, pathetic singer’, with ‘no hope in a choir’. This is in a way true  – I’ve barely sung anything in my life. I didn’t even try at the shower, and now I was planning to join the ranks of these pros.

Many of you might feel identified – I bet that most of you rather spend time playing sports, videogames, drinking with friends, or practically everything else rather than SINGING.

But it’s all good. The magic of these choirs is that there are plenty of people out there – it’s not that you are singing solo. There are 50 or more people singing along. And if you think you are THAT bad, a bit of help and practice will do you do – or you can just sing low as well.

And it’s not all about the girls. Singing makes you happy – it cheers you up, it energizes you. I’ve a long, dark and cold Scandinavian winter coming up soon, and I’m counting on the choir to keep me cheerful.

Singing is Sexy

All girls love the guys who sing or play music.

You won’t be the exception – girls at the choir and outside the choir will find it cool and sexy that you sing. It will up your game immediately – and more as you get even better.

And at the choir all girls will be very much looking forward to have a conversation with you – much more than if you meet them at the club.

Singing creates bonding – there’s energy in the air, passion and a situation that is unlike any other. It’s an atmosphere that makes socialization and getting to know one another very easy.

Last Thoughts

Trust me – join a choir, go sing, spice your life up and meet a lot of nice girls. The sole of thought of it IS crazy, your friends will laugh at you… But just do it. If you want to meet girls, it is a place you don’t want to miss. Plus singing is a wonderful thing.

If you are still not convinced, however, remember: think outside the box. Don’t go and hunt for girls where all the other guys do. Don’t go and compete for the low-quality girls all the other guys are going for. Up your game and do outrageous things.

Joining a choir is one of such things. There are many more – and I’ll help you find the right one for you.

One Place With 8 Girls For Every 1 Guy is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women

I bet that there’s ONE thing that excites YOU more than anything else.

Maybe it’s women’s feet – maybe it’s girls wearing leather pants, pantyhose or maybe it’s uniforms. It can also be some certain hair type or color, bigger or smaller girls, etc.

It’s normal – all men are especially attracted to something. Almost everyone has a fetish – almost everyone feel especially aroused when they see a particular object, clothing or body part.

This is not harmful – on the contrary, it spices up your sex life. It’s fun – as long, of course, that you keep it in control. If it gets out of hand, it can get you into trouble.

This article is meant to help you in case you follow that last case.

When Is a Fetish Dangerous?

Again, it’s common and normal to have a fetish. Even so, in some cases the fetish can become a serious or embarrassing condition. A few signals of a dangerous fetishism are:

• You think about it too much. It just makes you lose your concentration – you start performing poorly at work or school because of it.
• It comes up at random moments. Even when you’re not thinking about anything that excites you, the fetish comes to your mind.
• It’s destroying your relationship. You start to drive your partner crazy because of it – leading to arguments, discussions and even awkwardness during sex. For example, if you are crazy for women in boots, you urge your girlfriend to wear them, even if you know she doesn’t like to.

All these are very serious implications, and all demand you to act and do something about them.

Here I present you with a few solutions:

1- Get the Fetish Out of the Way

First, break away from all things that attach you to the habit. Be it porn, photos, clothing (in case you have a fetish for a certain type of clothes), etc. Get it out of the way – clear everything that will stimulate your arousal.

Having ‘easy access’ to the fetish will do nothing but to stimulate it. You don’t want that – on the contrary, you want to clear your mind, your thoughts and live the moment.

2- Control Your Thoughts

Tame your mind – nothing is worse than to keep your fetish always in mind. The more you think about your fetish, the more it will stick. Don’t feed your mind – when it more asks you for the fetish, fly away – do something else, get busy, don’t let it win.

It takes a lot of commitment, but you need to do it. It’s hard – for me, for you and for everyone with a fetish. But take a deep breath, smile and think about something else. Practice and practice and make taking the fetish thoughts out of your mind a serious, first-level decision.

3- Try Cognitive Tools

You’ll have a certain reaction in your mind and body every time you think about your fetish. Be it arousal, happiness, excitement – it’s SOMETHING, and it’s usually something that will make you think more and more about it.

You don’t want that – you want to condition your mind to think other things, and you want to have other thoughts in your mind when the fetish kicks on. It’s a bit crazy, but it’s definitely doable.

Tony Robbins usually suggests to break the thought in the moment – to interrupt the pattern immediately and channel the thoughts to something that gives you different emotions.

Slap yourself on the face – bite your finger. Something painful or displeasing would do. It doesn’t have to be all negative though – you can try with positive feelings, though the latter won’t be as effective.

4- Speak With a Professional

Sexologists or even standard psychologists could help you get rid of the fetish if all the other options fail. If you get to that point, this option might still be compelling – after all,  if the problem is serious enough, trying professional help is worth it as it well could help you get over the problem.

Final Thoughts

A fetish will never completely fade – and, again, you don’t really want to go that far. What you want is to control it – to make sure that it’s you in control of the fetish, and not the fetish in control of you.

How to Overcome a Sexual Fetish is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women