In many past articles I insisted on the concept of value and how important it is for you to raise it. I taught you different techniques and ways you achieve this and, as a consequence, become more attractive to women. But this time we’ll work on the other end of the deal. I’ll focus on which of your manners get your value down and thus kill the attraction you want to create. There’s no point in you becoming a great storyteller or a great cook if you keep taking your value down!
Overall, there’s one big value killer: the constant seeking of approval. Any low value man will be in a permanent search for approval and recognition from the others. This search for approval is shown off when you keep justifying, keep explaining and keep apologizing for your actions. It’s when you look needy and when you really care about what others think of you.
The truth is you don’t need to give a damn of what anyone else thinks of you. You don’t need THEM to approve your actions, nor to tell you what’s good and what’s wrong. You need to have your personality in place! So be sure of yourself and of what you believe – only apologize, justify and thoroughly explain your actions when you really, really fucked something up.
The other big value killer is the lack of social proof. Perhaps you are perfectly dressed and you are a great looking man, but if you are just one more dog in the pack, you won’t be as successful as you want. Who do you think is more attractive to women: a man who approaches, is charismatic, a leader and goes straight to the front or a man who is shy, nervous and, in the end, just one more guy in the group? Obviously, the first is more attractive! You got to be that first man – If you are man number two, your chances will be slim. Fortunately, this site has a lot of material that can help you becoming more like man number one. You could start by checking the articles on becoming a good speaker and also the one on charisma, for instance.
Finally, a low value man will also show off his lack of social proof by having a low voice volume in public, few friends, very weak body language and by not keeping consistent eye contact. You need to be exactly the contrary. You need to show you can withstand social pressure and that you are not intimidated by the role of the leader. You need to make the world see you are there, that you are actually a stand out of the crowd!
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I would be your self when wanting to get to know a new friend or women and listen to what she has to say and stay eye contact most of every conversation and smiling is a must! tell her how lovely her hair is and maybe feel it and ask about what she does too keep it so nice and soft? question her on some of the issues she’s talking about with out over doing it and let her hear your opinion with a steady voice so she would have an idea of a person your letting on! and when you feel the times right for a date once you got know each other a little or a bit more because timing and Patience has to be right ! and the pair of you are alone with no interference just ask her out and maybe some were you can get to know each other better unlike a cinema!
And if all fail’s and she blows you out don’t ever put your self down for trying because women are funny creatures and don’t ever creep back for another chance because a looser would do that!! let her do the crawling back..