Most people say, ‘wait for 2, 3 days, and then, yes, call – but never do it right away!’

Is that the right approach? Maybe – it depends on the girl and on the situation. Here I will give you a few tips on how to deal with it.

I’ll give you a few examples so you can understand what I’m talking about:

1- You barely know her, and you got her phone number fairly quickly – you met her in the subway, in the street, etc

In this case, the girl is a cold contact. She might or might not remember you after a couple of days – so a call between 48 to 72 hours after you met could be the right approach.

In this case, an immediate call could be too desperate – and what you want to show her is that you are a decent, respectable guy. It’s the type of girl you should organize for a coffee, a quick drink or another ‘light’ date.

2) You met her at a party or social occasion and had some time to establish trust and rapport

Normally, you would want to call her 3-4 days after – no more, no less. You want the girl to think where are you, why aren’t you calling, etc.

The thing here is that this is becoming a fashion – almost nobody calls the day after now. If you have the confidence and you thought she’s really into you, call her the day after!

But in that case, give a few buffer days for the date – if you call a Friday, arrange a date for Sunday.

3) You know her from a common friend or common setting (work, friends, school, some other class) and you are likely to see her again

Here’s a bit like #2 – but she’s a bigger prospect. If you are going to meet her in the next few days, don’t call – tease her, make her want you.

Otherwise, call 3-4 days after, or immediately if you have the confidence. Just remember to set up your date not for very soon.

For the call itself and what to say, I suggest you to read how to speak with girls on the phone.

Voicemail Messages?

If you leave her a message, you transfer all your power to her – she can take as long as she wants to get back to you (if so). You’ll be, in the meantime, wondering and thinking about her.

So just don’t leave her a message – call back. Call back one more time a few hours after – maybe at early evening, when she’s most likely free from work, school, classes, etc.

Don’t call more than twice – otherwise you’ll look way too desperate.

When Do You Call a Woman? is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women

Last month I joined the International CBS Choir in Copenhagen. I never imagined myself singing, and even less now that I’m especially busy.

But hey – there’s a catch, a catch that dragged me in and will drag any other courageous guy as well.  In the choir I sing, there are around 60 girls (!), and, counting me, there are ONLY SEVEN GUYS.

This is not a Danish phenomenon – apparently choirs round the world are filled with young, beautiful and lovely ladies and only a handful of guys.

Only ballet and some random dancing lessons have such a magical ratio.

Best, unlike at the club, bar or even at cafes, the girls at the choir are all nice, friendly and very open.

A choir is a single guy’s paradise, and I strongly suggest you to make some time to join one.

You Can Also Join a Choir

My family, friends and even my girlfriend labeled me as a ‘horrible, pathetic singer’, with ‘no hope in a choir’. This is in a way true  – I’ve barely sung anything in my life. I didn’t even try at the shower, and now I was planning to join the ranks of these pros.

Many of you might feel identified – I bet that most of you rather spend time playing sports, videogames, drinking with friends, or practically everything else rather than SINGING.

But it’s all good. The magic of these choirs is that there are plenty of people out there – it’s not that you are singing solo. There are 50 or more people singing along. And if you think you are THAT bad, a bit of help and practice will do you do – or you can just sing low as well.

And it’s not all about the girls. Singing makes you happy – it cheers you up, it energizes you. I’ve a long, dark and cold Scandinavian winter coming up soon, and I’m counting on the choir to keep me cheerful.

Singing is Sexy

All girls love the guys who sing or play music.

You won’t be the exception – girls at the choir and outside the choir will find it cool and sexy that you sing. It will up your game immediately – and more as you get even better.

And at the choir all girls will be very much looking forward to have a conversation with you – much more than if you meet them at the club.

Singing creates bonding – there’s energy in the air, passion and a situation that is unlike any other. It’s an atmosphere that makes socialization and getting to know one another very easy.

Last Thoughts

Trust me – join a choir, go sing, spice your life up and meet a lot of nice girls. The sole of thought of it IS crazy, your friends will laugh at you… But just do it. If you want to meet girls, it is a place you don’t want to miss. Plus singing is a wonderful thing.

If you are still not convinced, however, remember: think outside the box. Don’t go and hunt for girls where all the other guys do. Don’t go and compete for the low-quality girls all the other guys are going for. Up your game and do outrageous things.

Joining a choir is one of such things. There are many more – and I’ll help you find the right one for you.

One Place With 8 Girls For Every 1 Guy is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women

Other guys WILL approach your date – get over it. There’s no solution or trick to avoid that – you just need to assume that if you are going out with a pretty girl, she’ll have other men trying to take her from you.

This is no reason to panic. There’s a simple set of steps or things to do when a guy is making a move on your girl.

It all starts before it ever happens:

1) Just realize that there’s nothing to be insecure and jealous about. Those two feelings will only lead to fear and loss, and are exactly what the intruders want.

2) Be attractive – be a women magnet yourself. You have to get to the point that you know, deep down, that if any, any women you are ever with decides to leave you, you can just turn around and meet another one in ANY situation.

This eliminates insecurity, and if you project this feeling girls will be VERY CAREFUL of ever reacting to another guy’s play – as they know you can ditch them as easy as they could ditch you.

3) Be mentally prepared. Project these situations – imagine you are at this bar, you have your girl with you and this alpha guy approaches her. What feelings do you have? Go over it in your mind until you can think about it without having any negative emotions triggered.

That’s before, and here’s what you should do exactly in the situation – when for real you have a guy approaching your girl:

1) Be expecting it. Once you start dating hot women, other men will hit on them – guaranteed! There are no exceptions – you have to expect that it’s going to happen, and be calm and not surprised when it does.

2) In a calm, paused way, with a smile on your face and with strong eye contact, just tell the guy: “I’m sorry man, we are on a date.” Then continue as if he were not there.

If the guy insists, there’s a brilliant technique I’ve heard about once. It goes like this: bombard the guy with friendly, logical, and interview-type questions to make him look BORING.

Ask things like “Hey man, so where are you from?” “Oh cool, how’d you get here?” “Oh, what kind of car do you drive?” “That’s a nice car. Did you have trouble finding parking?” etc. Just make him say boring, logical answers and after a bit he’ll see his chances doomed.

He’ll notice he’s following your lead, will realize he has lost control and there’s no real point in him staying around.

This blows the guys out and in a friendly way – you even avoid any possible confrontation that might have resulted from challenging him.

You can end up saying: “You know, I thought you were a total prick at, but you’re pretty cool! You should come to (PLACE) this weekend and meet my friends.”

Then, if he keeps staying around you just take your girl by the hand and go somewhere else.

3) Sometimes, girls will deliberately try to make you jealous. If that’s the case, you should just calmly take it easy. You could speak with other girls, or make some jokes with the guys too.

But be careful – some women enjoy making men compete over them, and that’s the kind of women you don’t want to be with. If you are on a date, and she has any respect for you at all, she’ll ditch the guy in less than a minute. If she doesn’t, find yourself another woman. Save yourself of all the drama and trouble those girls bring.

Just don’t confuse this with the typical situation of a girl trying to figure out whether you “really like her” or not. In this case, girls will expect you to be jealous (and thus, show you are into them) – so you should just look for another girls and wait for her to come and find you again. Take it the fun, easy way.

Last bit: if a group of guys is cat-calling your girl across the street, etc, shout them back these magic words: “Thank you guys, but I’m taken!”

You’ll make even them laugh (and needless to say your girl!)

How to Deal With Guys Approaching Your Date is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women

It can happen – after a while, in the club, at the bar, or even on a date: silence. It’s awkward – a pause in the talk, a break in rapport.  From one moment to the other your conversation is exhausted.

It’s not good, and you must know how to directly deal with this silence. You must reconnect with the girl – you must bring back rapport.

Sometimes it’s not your fault. Many girls are just boring – void of something interesting to say, and some others plainly don’t want to speak with you. Avoid those girls – you don’t want to get nervous or feel bad when you have been doing the right things.

When presented with such girl, even if you like her, even if she’s attractive JUST GO. Look for another one – you’ll do both you and her a favor.

I met this foreign girl after more than a year – she kept telling me, all along, how excited she was to see me. She wrote me messages, flirted with me, etc.

When we actually met, silences abounded. She was unresponsive, unexcited – tired, she said, but, in my eyes, bored. After two or three awkward moments I said goodbye I just went for another girl.

In some other cases, it’s not her fault – it’s either yours, or she’s slightly nervous and doesn’t really know what to say. That’s when you must play your best hand. Try to reconnect with humor.

“Oh no, an uncomfortable silence! Don’t panic, NAME, it’ll pass”.

As she laughs, think quickly about a way to get back to a conversation, or, if not, just think about an open-ended question to ask her.

If you are on a date, you can look at the girl in the eye and ask her:

“I was wondering… from your point of view, what was it that made you say yes when I asked you out?”

It may look like a needy question to start – but she’ll go into how attractive she found you, how well dressed you were, how intelligent you are, how impressed she was, etc.

Thus, she’ll end up answering all of her “why not this guy?” questions before she ends up asking herself. She’ll feel more connected to you, and that will clear the (possible) doubts on her mind in that moment.

You can also tell her a story. But not any kind of story – make her one of the protagonists!

Tell her something funny and exciting has happened to you, and tell her that it reminded you of HER. The combination of good storytelling, plus the seductive power of hearing her own name, as well as the curiosity of what happened always works. Make up and prepare a couple of stories just for this case! (I do, you should too!)

And, whatever you say, make sure speak very slowly and take plenty of pauses. This will make the awkward silence less evident, plus will make her feel you were preparing and getting ready to ask her that question, tell her that story, etc.

Also, always maintain eye contact with her. Even through the silence – don’t look down! Look her in the eyes, smile confidently and use one of these tricks.

Last, you can always move to a different location. Go to some other place – it’s a very powerful psychological trick. It will create a history, time distortion and will give you plenty of new things to comment.

How to Deal and Avoid Awkward Silences is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women

Girls will let you know when they find you interesting. Sometimes it will be direct, but usually, instead, they’ll make sex signals and wait for you to catch up. Watch out for them – most times they mean you are on for business.

Neck Stroking

The neck is one of girl’s most sensitive and erogenous zones. Gently kiss them in the neck and you’ll immediately understand what I’m talking about – the neck is big deal.

Many speculate on the reasons, and the most accepted is that the neck has one of the softest and smoothest skins in the whole body. While some other places (especially down there) might beat the neck’s prowess, what makes the neck so appealing is that it is the most socially acceptable to display.

Stimulating the neck can give girls gentle, loving but also deep emotions. If they are exposing and highlighting their neck, girls are elegantly and in a non-gross way saying “come and get me.”

Toying and Object Stroking

There are many psychologists who believe that people transfer their inner feelings to external objects. Girls are not the exception, and, according to this theory, when girls stroke a wine glass, for example, they are telling you “stroke me”. Same, when they run a pen across their lips, they are telling you “kiss me.” Watch out for this stroking – most times it will mean something.

You should not confuse it, however, with the ‘agitation’ gestures. These don’t mean you are on the right track – they mean that the girl is just somewhere else. You can differentiate between the good and bad toying easily: slow and sensual is good. Fast and reckless is bad.

Pointing With Her Knees

When girls point you with their knees and legs, feel chosen. This is the action she uses to indicate that you are the one she is interested in. It’s one way for the girl to close a barrier on you – a personal triangle, and a way to show you that you have all her focus. The more of the leg exposed, the more sexual the signal becomes.

In the same way, legs and knees pointing away usually are a bad sign. It will mean she’s uninterested, and will serve as an invitation for other men around.

Touching Herself

Quite obvious and no surprise – when girls start to touch themselves, it usually means something. Usually, it’s an unconscious signal meaning they want you to touch them. Normally girls will draw your attention to what they believe are their best assets: thighs, neck, legs and even the breasts. It’s a sure way for them to scale to the next level.

But watch out – girls know how much this affects men and might well do it deliberately. Learn to spot the difference between the conscious and subconscious touching, as the latter is the one who reliably indicates the woman’s feelings.

How to Know if a Girl Likes You: Attraction Signals II is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women