I get many emails every week asking me: “Which is the best place to meet girls?” And the answer is always the same: it depends on you. The best place to go and flirt is where you stand out the most. I’m good at the club, but so are many other guys. Instead, on cultural events and expositions there’s no one to match me - I have a comparative advantage. Few, if any, of the guys at these places are as flirty and seductive as me. And that’s not even all – I’m more cultured and into the subject than most. I’m one big step beyond. You must find your own comparative advantage too. It can be everywhere – find it and then work as crazy to develop it. You must have a place where you are the top on pick up. Where depends on you. Let’s think about a few possibilities:

• Clubs.
• Bars.
• Meet-ups with friends.
• Gym.
• Coffee shops.
• Trains or Buses.
• Study meet-ups.
• Some type of class: language, gardening, yoga, aerobics, etc.
• Beach.
• On the street.

And I could go on forever. Thankfully there are girls everywhere. You could even work from the comfort of your own home and flirt with girls online. The possibilities are endless. One problem people have, though, is that they try to get good at flirting in all of these places at the same time. While it’s possible for you to do it, it’s really not the best. The ideal is for you to focus only two – if not just one. And make sure those places are the ones where you can have your comparative advantage. Pick the two places and then concentrate your energy progressing on just those two. Learn the dynamics, practice often and focus all your work to get good at flirting in those two places. For example, let’s assume you choose the gym and cafes. If that’s where you want to flirt, forget about the others for a while and focus all your energy into these two. Visit the gym and the coffee shop every day. Find which is the best time to go, get to know the regulars and start practicing your game daily. Put commitment and perseverance and you could be winning in no time. With enough work and practice you can become one of the best, if not the best, picking up girls at that certain place. That has to be your objective. Sometimes more is less – so narrow down your goals and focus on just two those places first.

How to Find Your Comparative Advantage With Girls is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women

There are two great things about gyms: they are good for your health and they are an excellent place to meet women. The first one makes sense: we need to stay in shape, strong and all. The second one also holds true – gyms are a fantastic place to get to know girls.

Gyms are probably the easiest to crack of all the day-time scenarios. And best, girls there are usually really good. You might have a few bad ones, as always, but overall, the girls you frequent gyms for the long-term all at least have a great shape. And this is about Dating Beautiful Women, after all.

All You Need To Know First

When you go to the gym, try to look your best. Of course, you might be in big disadvantage with the guys who are in terrific shape, but stay cool. Get nice clothes (not those horrible, five-year old trainers) and make sure that if you have some nice part of your body it stands out.

Again, this is like going out to a club or something. The clothes and your appearance are not number one or something absolutely luck-changing. But they can give you a big hand. Try to maximize your chances from the very start.

Also, no matter how obvious this may sound, make sure you know what you are doing. You need to know your routine and exercises well. There’s nothing more pathetic than a guy completely fucking up on the gym. It’s really unmanly.

Last, don’t be socially closed. I’m really tempted to put my headphones on and forget about hearing those smelly guys shouting, but it just doesn’t work. At least if you want to go there and flirt too. You need to be open and socialize with both boys and girls. Make friends with the regulars and make sure that when you go in and you go out, you are noticed. Social proof is your friend.

Approaching on the Gym

So, there are two ways of picking up on the gym: the slow way and the fast way. Don’t let the titles confuse you – both really work. As always, slow one is less risky and more effective in the long-term while the fast one is more risky and might have more girls saying ‘no’. Don’t settle with just one – Use both.

Either way, both have an objective in common: setting up a date. That’s what you want, for now. A date on a bar, on a club or even at your place. It can be the same day, the next weekend or even a month ahead. It just doesn’t matter.

The Slow Way

There’s one basic premise in the slow way: you’ll go to the gym at the same time every day and you’ll start meeting the girls that regularly go there. You’ll start conversations and slowly build rapport with them. You’ll slowly gain more trust, tease them a bit, have longer conversations and, eventually, you’ll get a phone number and a date.

How long is eventually is up to you – But it can definitely be done in only a few days. Just make sure not to look that desperate.

Don’t worry about openers, pick-up lines or about topics to speak. You are at a socially-accepted flirting place and it shouldn’t be awkward for you to have a conversation. Start by saying “Hello” every time you go to the gym and meet any of these girls. After one or two times, say “Hi, how are you?” and do some small chit-chat. Then let things progress naturally – Just never stay too quiet.

You can also ask your gym friends (which are cool to have) to give you a hand. Perhaps the girl you like already met one of them – so ask him (or her) to introduce you to her. If not, you can always approach the machine she is using, ask her if she’s done and make a small comment after that.

Possibilities are enormous and directly in front of you.  Make things easy – This slow way is not meant to be hard at all.

The Fast Way

The fast way, on the other hand, is much more exciting. You’ll first look for a girl who’s hot, bored-looking and, best, has just arrived to the gym. You’ll approach her, talk to her a little bit and then invite her to do cardio work with you. Cardio is horribly boring and to have some company can make the experience much better. Tell her that and if she would like to join you.

If she says yes – and she might well say it – you are in. You’ll then have all the cardio-time, on the bikes or on the running machines, to speak with her. No chit-chat, no short conversations… You’ll have time to really build attraction. Use it wisely and you can get a date in no time.

If it’s already late, tell her to join you for a beer (after you two shower and all). You can even invite her to your place for a movie. You can do whatever you want and it won’t look weird at all. It’s up to you to make the most of that cardio time.

Dates out of the gym can really work out – even if they are on that same night. One guy explained to me once: “When you go late enough, on a Tuesday, Wednesday… If she’s there it’s because she definitely doesn’t have plans for the night. YOU are her plan.” It’s just like that. If you built enough attraction, a night out with you will probably be more exciting than to spend it watching TV home alone.

And one last thing – Go when and where the girls are. If your local gym is mostly guys, change. If all girls come in when you are finishing your work out, consider crashing later. It’s common sense: go where and when the girls are. This way you’ll have higher chances of meeting someone!

How to Pick Up Girls at The Gym is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women

It’s summer on this side of the planet and it’s time to go to the beach. I’m spending my time these days in the spectacular city of Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. And you just can’t imagine how many hot girls are on the beach here, it’s something out of this world. Summing to that, most are wearing only these micro-bikinis, small thongs and more… Any man would be quite impressed here. It’s lovely.

Because of this it would be a waste not to do something. And with this relaxed atmosphere it’s possible to approach – it’s not hard and the results can be quite surprising. You can at least get the number or email of a beautiful girl and take her out.

I’ll explain you how to. Make sure to take these points into consideration next time you are on the beach!

It’s not That Different From a Club

Most tips for clubs and bars or other flirting spots still apply. First, look your best. On the beach a nice and well-worked body will definitely give you the upper hand. Make sure to do at least one or two months of heavy gym-routine before you go to the beach to maximize your chances. It’s not absolutely necessary, but it will help you out.

Second, keep a confident look, charisma and a big smile. I have insisted for ages – girls, regardless or the place you are, will stick to guys who look full of joy and happiness. A bit of mysterious look also helps out.

Last, mind the eye contact. A short, deep and confident glance can open up in clubs, bars and most places – and the beach is not the exception. Just make sure that your glance focuses on the girl’s faces too and not just on their well-worked bottoms and fronts.

The Setting

There are two places to approach here: one is the beach proper and the other one is the sea. I’ll give you different sets of strategies and approaches for both. Either is cool, I just suggest you to approach where you feel you could be more confident with yourself and, also, where the nicest girls are. Got to go for the best, right?

The Beach (proper)

The beach is a lovely place – it’s relaxed, full of good vibe and nice girls wearing almost nothing. I’m loving my afternoons here. I write and study Portuguese while I’m sitting on a chair just 3 or 4 meters away from the sea. It’s paradise!

But, once I’m finished with the academic and working half of the day (or, otherwise, when I see one out-of-this-universe girl,) I’m just pushed to act.

One thing you should know about the beach especially is that it’s a relatively static setting. Girls that are tanning or talking at one point in the beach will still be there for a while. It’s by no means a migrating atmosphere as a bar or a club could be. Use that in your advantage: either by making eye contact and calibrating for an approach a bit later. My favorite thing to do is to say “Hello” and a smile as soon as I walk past by them while going to the sea or to my place. It further relaxes the relaxed atmosphere. It’s cool.

With that said, then come the actual approaches. A few I’ve tried with success are:

1) Approaching with pick-up lines: PULs make things easier on the beach – and if you say something fun that makes them smile, you’ll be on the right track. I’ve used cheesy, romantic and even self-made PULs in Portuguese since I got here. Use them as an ice-breaker and then move on.

2) The Poem pick-up: it’s cheesy, over-used but still cute. So I actually used it again and approached a beautiful girl with a poem in my horrible-but-cute Portuguese. Made her laugh, smile and used it also as an ice-breaker.

3) Inviting them over: better to do if I’m with friends and approaching a group. I just tell them we are having a few drinks, playing cards or whatever with one or two friends just a few meters away and that I would love them to join. When they do we just move on for a nice chat.

4) Whatever else comes into my mind: I have, among other things: asked girls to help me out with Portuguese, if I could read their palms, if they wanted to join me to play beach-tennis or some other sport and more. Just be creative and stay out of creepiness with a big smile and overwhelming confidence.

The Sea

The sea is amazing. I love swimming on crystalline water and playing on the waves. It gives me good vibe, it’s a lot of fun and it’s a fantastic place to approach girls.

It’s a bit different from the beach as it’s a movable setting. You don’t need to stay on the same place and it’s even more accepted to be closer to where the girls are. Maybe the wave takes you there or they just come to you. And then, once you are close enough, is when you finally speak up.

Unlike on the beach, where I developed more technical and creative approaches, on the sea things are much simpler. I just walk (or swim) to the girl or group of girls and tell them that’s a lovely day or speak up whatever pops into my mind. Nothing else – usually it works to start a conversation.

Just keep out of the boring stuff fast and move on to something more interesting than the weather or what we are doing in the city. That way is easier to strike a connection and continue the conversation outside the sea.

Remember to keep the good vibe, smile and high-confidence. Then things will work out!

How to Pick Up Girls on The Beach is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women

Bars and clubs are not the only places where you can go and look for beautiful women. Instead, you should try approaching during the day and at unconventional places. Once you have a bit of practice you’ll find pick up easier and your results will be much better.

Why The Coffee Shop

Coffee Shops are perhaps the ultimate place to pick up girls. They have the best of the bars and the best of the daytime approaches. They are full of beautiful women, have a relaxed atmosphere and competition is slim. Find the right café and visit it often.

Golden Rules of Coffee Shop Pick Up

There are a few things that make the coffee shop approach special. All of these make the situation different from the other daytime strategies. Take a look and keep them in mind:

Rule #1: Conversation and interaction will be longer.

This is inevitable. Conversation will normally be long, perhaps even longer than an hour. You might go over more topics, thoughts and ideas than in any other kind of approach. That is, of course, if you are building rapport between you too.

This is great. It will make the interaction something like an instant first date. You’ll have to treat it as such if what you want is success. Have your dating skills well calibrated and work to build something big out of this. Read the first date mistakes, remember all of the girl’s possible indicators of interest and have a few anecdotes and stories handy for some laugh together.

Also, just in case, remember false time constraints. Maybe she fears that you’ll be speaking with her for too long. Relax her by telling her you’ll have to be somewhere quite soon. Then, if the she’s really into you just tell her you rather spend a few more minutes chatting with her.

Rule #2: You shouldn’t be that direct.

I know I told you countless times to be direct during the day. Fine, but this coffee shop approach is somehow different. Unlike other places this time you’ll have more time for conversation and for the interaction. This will make a casual talk more likely to succeed.

Just don’t play too safe. It won’t get you anywhere! So be flirty, interesting and fun. Don’t speak only about the mundane and ordinary, go beyond. Gently tease, use each opportunity to carve down into the deep feelings, emotions and ideas.

Rule #3: Looks, time and the people.

This is quite simple. The people who will visit the coffee shop will be different depending on the time of the day. Morning is different from lunch and so is the late afternoon. Who are your targets? Go to the coffee shop when the girls you like will be there.

Also remember your looks. Don’t look lousy: be well dressed. Get a shirt, a nice bag and, above all, look clean. Please do. Try to be as handsome as possible and quickly stand out from the other guys in the shop. Girls will notice and that will play in your advantage!

The Coffee Pick Up In Action

With the rules said, let’s move on to the strategies. It’s really similar to what you would do in a club or bar: open, engage, close. Here it goes:

A- Opening.

Opening shouldn’t be that hard. You’ll have at least a million to open with. What is the girl doing? Is there something cool you are doing that she should learn about? Think. An opinion, observation or just a few lines could open the conversation with ease.

This time you won’t be that constrained. A coffee place is more relaxed, much more open and less creepy that a bus, train or the street to approach. But open with confidence. Speak loud and clear, keep eye contact and smile. Also make sure you don’t invade her space too soon.

B- Talking.

Be natural and keep a nice conversation going. Be flirty, fun and make her enjoy talking to you. Your goal has to make her feel comfortable, nothing else. It’s really easier than you think; you just need to keep your line.

Speak to girls as if you had known them for long. Even if you met ten minutes ago, do it. It will make people feel good around go. Also avoid all conflictive topics, gently tease and make a focus on her. Speak passionately, don’t interview and never go too far.

C- Closing.

If you had a nice chat she’ll give you her number or email. It will be natural; you won’t need to force it. But always give a catch: invite her to a future party, tell her you could send her info about something, tell her you want her to mail you something, etc. Do it while the conversation is going and don’t look desperate.

Don’t look for something else. Trying to take her home this fast could probably ruin everything. Make sure you don’t do that. Instead focus on getting a second date, chatting a little bit more or doing something interesting together. That’s where the win is. Remember what to say on the phone too!

Enjoy your coffees!

How To Pick Up Women At a Coffee Shop is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women

There are thousands of beautiful women on the street. It’s a waste not to do something about it. With a bit of practice and the right techniques you’ll hook up with more girls you met on the street than with girls you met clubbing or at a bar. I’m very sure of that.

With this in mind, I then introduced you to the first technique. It was simple and all about taking your dog out for a walk. The charm of dogs is unmatchable: they are super friendly, cute and girls LOVE them. Using this to your advantage can give you terrific results.

But, unfortunately, there are times when you just can’t have a dog. Not to be dependent on mine for my entire street pickup I developed a new technique. Here I’ll tell you what’s all about.

The Technique

The concept is simple: have somewhere to invite random girls to. Then stay at one place for ten to twenty minutes, stop the girls walking and invite them to that place. As crazy as it sounds, it works.

For example, organize a big party, become co-host or promote one. Then, once on the street, tell this girl you are organizing an amazing party and that you would love her and her friends to come. Have a small flyer, give her emails, etc. Mention a catch like “free beer” or something like that so they get more interested.

If you don’t want to organize a party, invite girls to a class or a place you are usually going to. For instance, when I enrolled to my last tango class there were just men and no girls to dance with. Everyone was protesting but no one did anything… So, as a man of action, I just went out to the street and started asking every nice looking girl if she wanted to join.

After ten minutes (and that’s quite a bit of approaches!) I did find one tourist who was willing and excited to practice the dance… So she joined the class, danced exclusively with me and, after a couple of hours dancing, gave me her phone to go out for a drink. Double win.

Calibrating the Approaches

For this kind of pick up you have to play the law of numbers. Not all girls you invite will join you for the class and only few will show up to the party. But some will! And if you make sure to approach every girl you like for more than ten minutes a few will certainly join you.

It’s that simple. Then just make sure you make the most of the approach. Don’t waste your and her time by just giving her a flyer and telling her something simple. Once you stop her use the opportunity to make her a fantastic impression. Speak loud, clear, with passion and insist with “you’ll have a GREAT time,” and “I would love especially YOU”…

Have fun, don’t be too tense… Just enjoy the moment. Learn from your mistakes, from the failed approaches and keep going. Never give up and keep approaching. In just ten minutes you could have spoken to more than thirty girls. And that’s a big number… If your proposition is good enough girls will join.

Bring a bit of sunshine, make them smile and look safe by telling them they can invite friends, keeping the interaction short, etc.

Final Thoughts

But the trick is persistence. Don’t give up, keep going and be consistent. Do this, say, every Wednesday or Thursday to promote your party on Friday or Saturday. If the girl says no because she can’t this time, offer to let her know for the next and so on. Be a wise and a bit shameless.

Girls are out there after all… All you have to do is speak to them. It’s fine if you don’t want to host a party or invite them to a class. Just invent something! The possibilities are endless. Try and see which work the best for you and calibrate. Have fun!

How to Pick Up Girls on The Street is a post from: Dating Beautiful Women